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Is it the way you walk or your lusty lingo that sets off so many sparks in guys' hearts (and elsewhere)? Either way, you give Samantha from Sex and the City some stiff competition in the sizzle department. Your male-magnet 'tude makes you the envy of all of your friends and prompts enough randy invitations to book you through 2006
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But be careful: By projecting a cocky, check-me-out vibe, you could wind up looking like you're overcompensating for a lackluster personality; guys may not take you seriously because you don't show them that you have a deeper dimension than your cleavage. "It's possible that you're using your sex appeal as a shield to keep men from knowing the real you," says Shirley Glass, Ph.D., a psychologist in Baltimore. "You worry that if they see more of your personality and less of your bedroom, they won't be as interested anymore." As a result, you may have a hard time attracting men who want a meaningful relationship with you. "It's natural to want to be liked and desired, but allure isn't about wearing your sexuality on your sleeve," says Hallie Potocki, author of What Do Men Want? "So what is considered sexy? Being someone he wants to spend time with -- not just physically, but to laugh with, tell his secrets to and share ideas with." So next time you meet a hot prospect, temper that vixenish attitude and tell him about the real you -- the funny, smart, complex person inside. You'll command more respect, and your relationships will be more satisfying. There's so much more to you than a revealing neckline -- give yourself the chance to prove it.