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I do.
I guess I should have been a bit clearer when I first set up the journal, but I intended it to be a way to say something to a "special someone", possibly anonymously (which is also one reason why I made it into a journal with comments, rather than a community where anyone could post an entry but couldn't do so anonymously)... saying "I love you" or "I wish you would notice me" or the like. Not really for "happy vday to all my friends!" messages. So I clarified things a little.
and secondly, pressing ctrl + f, makes things easier to find not putting it in the subject.
Yes, if it's a top-level comment -- which, admittedly, most are.
However, putting the name in the subject makes it easier (I find) to identify threads, since they'll have that subject as well and not merely "(no subject)" -- and the comment notifications group together in my mail client, which I like.
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I never expected it to end up the way it did. Last year, there were some really beautiful expressions -- and there are this year, too, but not only.
I had considered deleting or screening all the "everyon on my flist" comments but it would be a lot of work and undoubtedly lead to (even more) drama.
So I added a journal entry at the top and edited the userinfo to hopefully make it a bit clearer what I had envisioned.
Yeah, I love most of the people on my Flist as well, but that's not the damn point.
Agreed.
Sigh. Humans.
Yep.
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Putting out there "Tell the people you love about it here." and then saying "Oh wait. Only if it meets my standard of what's special enough." is a little ridiculous.
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I agree. Even if someone else hadn't already registered the "appropriate" usernames, I wouldn't be doing this again, since it's more of a headache than I had expected. (Yes, this is probably largely due to my expectations and not necessarily to what has been posted.)
I had remembered things differently from last year's experience; perhaps things were different then, perhaps not. At any rate, it's been a bit stressful.
OTOH I've also had people agree with me in my dislike for "all of the people on my friends list" greetings. Opinions vary.
If you want to decide who's messages are special enough to pass your stanards, moderated communities or screening comments work great for that.Yeah. I've got some suggestions for things I'd have done differently were I to start now, which I'd gladly pass on to whomever does it next year if they're interested. Making it into a community is certainly one of them ( ... )
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As I said, I have some suggestions as to what I'd do differently, if you're interested in them.
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That is really, really uncool. I don't see any point to that at all, and it's really rather cruel. You know she's not the only person who did her whole flist-- she's just one who was polite enough to inform you of it-- which I'm sure she wouldn't of, had she known you'd react in such a knee-jerk manner.
Honestly, I don't get why you made this journal at all, if you were going to do things like pick and choose which people get to have their messges show and not. Sorry-- I just don't see the spirit of love in that.
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Yes.
So now all that hard work she just did is wasted?
Yes. Hard work by itself isn't a redeeming factor -- if my living room wall is covered with Kleenexes stuck on with hand cream, I don't worry too much about whether a child stuck them on carefully, one by one, or just threw them at the wall; I'd be annoyed in either case, and remove the mess, work or no work. Or if someone decides to write the entire text of the Communist Manifesto in the guestbook of a Catholic church, it'd still be inappropriate regardless of the work involved.
You know she's not the only person who did her whole flist-- she's just one who was polite enough to inform you of it-- which I'm sure she wouldn't of, had she known you'd react in such a knee-jerk manner.
Well -- look at what she wrote; I've unscreened it ( ... )
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I understand that when it's just words on a screen, there's a lot open to interpretation. But speaking as someone who knows her, she really did not mean it that way at all. She is the sweetest, most polite person-- and honestly, she did not deserve all that.
If she had said:
Note to mod of this community: I know you asked people not to do their entire flists, but I already promised them I would! And I can't go back on my word. ^_^;;; Sorry!! <3 <3
--would that have made a difference?
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No.
It'd still boil down to "Oops, I had promised something that I now see is unwanted. But hey, I'll do it anyway even though you asked me not to." It seems disrespectful to me.
I suppose it could be argued that "going back on her promise" would be seen as disrespectful to those she made it to, but I think she could have explained that she had tried to fulfil her promise but couldn't, through no fault of her own -- and that that's not disrespectful or breaking your word.
Like promising a kid you'll go to the movies with them on their birthday and then finding that the film you wanted to see is completely booked out on that day by a private party -- "keeping your promise" would involve gate-crashing the film, but I think it's honourable to say to the kid, "Sorry, I know I promised, but I can't keep it because that theater isn't open to the public today. How about tomorrow instead? Or going out for a really nice dinner instead of the movie?" Because you did your bit.
honestly, she did not deserve ( ... )
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I support your dislike of people posting the same graphic over and over and putting their entire lists up.. now my few special messages to four or five on my 130+ list will have to wade through pages and pages to see my messages to them.
Then again, if you make it, they will find a way to abuse it.
Just lettin ya know there are people out here that agree with you, but I think it's a lovely idea nonetheless and I hope a few of my sweeties see their messages. Thanks again.
Oh, and a potentially abusive comment that may need to be screened: http://www.livejournal.com/users/140205/1879.html?thread=1307223#t1307223
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Thank you. I'm glad I'm not the only one.
Then again, if you make it, they will find a way to abuse it.
Unfortunately.
Just lettin ya know there are people out here that agree with you
I really do appreciate it; it helps get over the headaches I've had to know that I'm not doing it only for me.
Oh, and a potentially abusive comment that may need to be screened:
Done; thanks for pointing that out. I agree.
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