My current struggles

[1hipmom]

For those of you that don't know. I have had custody of a nephew (Chance) since March. Mike and I have tried all that we can do. I have prayed and tried to listen to God on this. Maybe I failed with him. Foolish pride is hard to get over. Mike and I both are the type of parents that it is...what I say goes....With Chance there is always an excuse,

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[1hipmom]

Thanks for encouraging comments, I really needed them today. I read them at work but didn't have time to respond back... It made my day better

[turtle3282]

First thing I can tell you is, Your wonderful for taking in someone and taking care of him. Thats a huge step, and not a lot of people would do that. Secondly, its HARD to love someone as you do your own children. And I'm not even sure that it is possible. There is just a connection that is there with your kids. I love my kids, and I love my step daughter but I don't think I will ever love her the way I love my kids. But dont get me wrong, I do LOVE her dearly and would do anything for her. I'm sure its hard for him, and I can only imagine what is in his head. I'm sure he feels like hes hard to be loved, or what not. Its only been 9 months? Maybe it will take more time? Its not just one person adjusting and I'm sure its hard for all of you. What about counceling with him? I've seen people go through counceling and it really helping them out. I will pray for you and your situation and I hope that it all works out. You shouldn't feel guilty though, you should feel like a very good person!
(hugs)

[1hipmom]

Thanks!!!
The entire 9 months has been a struggle on us. It is an on going everyday thing. He/we have had couceling...doesnt work because all of his life he has been taught to say the right things infront of people, to make everyone think you are ok.
I will post later what I decided today....looks good so far