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[4aces]

well its early morning and i just got home from work. well yesterday was a pretty chaotic day. it started out alright but then me and karen got into an argument. it was about food. we went to walmart and got a gift card instead of money for stuff we returned. she was upset that they did not give her the money for the stuff, cant blame her there.

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[xopink_heartsox]

no john, i dont say you feed them every second of the day. its just every hour you give them more candy, chips, etc. i never said they were overweight either. you dont look over weight when you eat candy, or junk food all the time. its bad enough their mother takes them to fast food resturants all the time. its not about the money its just the fact they dont eat right half the time they are with us. maybe you dont care. but i sure do. and you had no right of bring up how my past was how everyone called me fat. yeah i aint happy anymore you've changed so much you used to care about how i felt about things, wanted to listen to me when i talked. everyonce in a while take me out to eat or buy a flower on your way home. breakfast on your way home. actted like i was with you when we were out in a store or somewhere. you never hold my hand, or even me for that matter. i feel so unloved with you and depressed all the time. but before you made me feel like i was the most beautiful girl in the world. i aint saying i am the perfectest person

[blurice]

You should try and get some good foods, like anything BUT sweet stuff, like candy, cake, etc etc... You should say, "lasagna!! OMG PLZPLZPLZPLZPLZ!!!?!?!?!?"... Whenever you give people lots of candy, and they don't gain weight, its because they have a high metabolism or something of that sort, so blah... that and candy isn't the best kind of food. You try and at least maintain a healthy food thingy. =p Sorry, I suck at typing, haha. X-D

[4aces]

no problem. thanks for the help.really appreciate it. lasagna sounds real good right now.

[blurice]

It does. I want some. :(

[4aces]

i would mail ya some if i knew how to make it. :)

[nandayconure]

my husband and i used to fight over food, too. i would ask what he wanted for dinner and he would say "food" and then refuse to eat what i made. eventually i just figured that if he doesn't want to eat then he doesn't have to. i don't worry about what he does anymore. i pretty much let my kids eat whatever they want when ever they want, and they usually pick stuff like chicken noodle soup and peanut butter sandwiches, or for snacks stuff like tomatoes or watermellon. even if they pick something with sugar, it's like a pop tart or granola bar. i just don't keep chips or twinkies or candy in the house. also i don't keep pop in the house and don't let the kids eat it at home so that if we go somewhere and all there is to drink is pop, then it is ok, cause they don't have it that much. usually they drink water. if you don't let the kids have sweets once in a while they will over endulge on them when they are grown-up. that's what i did. besides that you guys need to just hang in there until the new baby is born and you get past

[4aces]

thanks. i used to feed them alot. i dont anymore. i only get them the weekends and try to do what i can with the time i have. my ex is always trying to make me get them more. as i see it, if she doesnt want the responsibility she should just give me the main custody and she could have them on the weekends.but i thank you for the advice.

[tonguexuntied]

I have a bad habit of not being specific with what I want to eat too. I think a lot of girls do that. My boyfriend's solution is he'll come up with 3 places he'd like to eat and I'll pick one so that way, it's something I like and a place he likes too. Or 3 different foods, etc.

You could try that and see how it works.

[4aces]

i have tried that and the result is the same. i know its hard to make up her mind but i dont feel like waiting forever.

[femmeah]

Did she know that you had children before beginning a relationship with you?

I assume so, so that was her choice whether or not to start a relationship with you

[4aces]

thanks for the help. appreciate it. you are right if someone loves someone enough they will try to work things out.

[nandayconure]

what happens if one person tries to work it out and the other one thinks it is perfect already? this is sort of off the subject, but it seems like only on of us can be happy or both of us be miserable. and niether of us will be miserable for long without trying to be happier at the others expense.

[4aces]

ive been there. i try to be as good as i can but its not worth it. she wants me to be perfect but their is no way you can. if there isnt mutual love between two people then its like a constant struggle or argument. i hate to argue but when there is no choice sometimes ya have to go with the flow.my girlfriend wants to go back and live in north carolina. sometimes i say go and sometimes i say that i dont want to be alone. it is a difficult choice sometimes.really dont know what road to take these days.