After much thought about this for the last 10 years myself, it's a hard question. I think if you show concern, that is fine, and it is hard not to be dogmatic and judgmental...it really is...especially if that stuff kinda freaks you out...but you kind of have to have hope that nothing super bad is going to go down. It could have just been muscle relaxers, vicodin, etc. That stuff, in small doses, isn't near as bad as what else could be going on. The fear of drugs (especially if you haven't done them, and I've done very very few) is usually a lot worse than what the actual drug can do. Unless you're getting into hard drugs (coke, meth, whatever). I say, above all else, if you feel uncomfortable and judgmental, it's time to leave the situation, but generally people who are using don't want you to be concerned or caring.
I'd be worried. At the least, having money and drugs lying around and people just walking in an out is a big ol' neon sign inviting trouble to come visit.
I think if it freaks you out, it's time to leave. I was pretty shocked when i found out how many dorm kids do coke, which is where I draw the line, and even recreational-user I raised an eyebrow when I learned what it meant to hotbox something.
I agree with some of the above statements. A lot of times it's easier not to go. If you're close, people notice that you're not coming around, and they usually know why, especially if you've talked about your beliefs before.
Being judgmental is subjective. It can be as little as having a differing opinion, though you'd be amazed at how many people are willing to hear what you have to say (especially when you say it with heart) when you start out with, "May I be honest with you?"
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I agree with some of the above statements. A lot of times it's easier not to go. If you're close, people notice that you're not coming around, and they usually know why, especially if you've talked about your beliefs before.
Being judgmental is subjective. It can be as little as having a differing opinion, though you'd be amazed at how many people are willing to hear what you have to say (especially when you say it with heart) when you start out with, "May I be honest with you?"
Curiosity can be an ally.
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