Comments | ___pandora___: Married men, stay away

___pandora___

Married men, stay away

Mar 20, 2009 15:46

Do you think it's appropriate for a married man to try to make friends with a single woman? I don't. There's one who has been bugging me, unfortunately. =( I'm actually not single, but he doesn't know that. It seems wrong. Am I old-fashioned? Are his actions normal in this modern society?

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lone_star_grl March 21 2009, 00:24:32 UTC

I don't think so. If your engaged and a single man is trying to "get with you", then you should try telling him that you want a Friendship not a Relationship.

clarifying... ___pandora___ March 21 2009, 00:34:36 UTC

So, you think friendship is okay, but pursuing a romantic relationship is not okay? *making a mental tally of ppl's "votes"*

Re: clarifying... lone_star_grl March 21 2009, 00:35:58 UTC

right. but if your friendship with this guy is getting too serious, then you should end the friendship.

Thank you ___pandora___ March 21 2009, 00:52:14 UTC

Agreed. @@ Except there's nothing to end because I won't let the friendship begin, as I think it's wrong to his wife. Also, I have a partner and don't particularly like guys, especially married ones who invite me over to see their fireplaces. > <

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littleflapper March 21 2009, 17:11:52 UTC

hmmm is wrong to be friend with married guy? I don ´t think so, while it´s just still just friendship O.o

___pandora___ March 21 2009, 17:22:14 UTC

I have this idea, though, that a guy will always want to take it to the next level.

sandra666219 March 29 2009, 23:37:49 UTC

Well as long as it's just a friendship it's ok. Beyond that, that's not good. I'm really old school about that. Have respect to the wedding vows.

MY best friend Marco, whom I've known for over 24 years, we are the best of friends but his wife wasn't to thrilled that his best friend was a girl. Now she knows me, so all is fine. Let me tell you some of ex girlfriends always thought I was a threat. I'm the last person they had to worry about. To me Marco is like my brother, you know it would be like incest. YUCK!!!! I respect people marriages.

If this guy keeps pushing it to the next level, just blow him off.

___pandora___ March 30 2009, 00:19:07 UTC

I agree, it isn't right for a man who is married to pursue another. Speaking of my own personal beliefs, I also do not believe it is right for a platonic friendship to exist between them because I view men as always wanting to take it to the next level. But, perhaps I am not right about this. You and your best friend Marco seem to be doing fine staying friends without taking anything to 'the next level', even over the long period of 24 years. So, clearly my thinking could use some adjusting.

Maybe my thing is that I think such a friendship is so risky to attempt that it isn't worth attempting if it would put a marriage at risk.

I did blow this guy off. I thought it was really weird that a married man would try to make friends with a, in his mind, single woman.