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[__essa]

It really upsets me to see young women just throw everything away including opportunities for a boy. aren't we supposed to be better than that? Women over history fought hard so we could be treated equally. We still aren't treated the same as men but everyday is a struggle to prove that we can do whatever we want to do. So when I hear about girls

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[megatons]

my sister is one of the girls you're talking about. she threw away everything for her douche bag ex husband and the only thing she has to show for it are two beautiful kids...but her life is on hold and will forever be. i mean she's in school, but still. she enlisted in the air force a couple years back to work NASA top secret and everything (she's a smart cookie with no common sense) and pretended like she was suicidal to get out and be with douche bag. he fucked her over big time..and time has taught her a few things. she's a stronger person for it now and the only important things in her life are her kids and family..instead of the douche bag

[__essa]

wow your sister is crazy. i dont know why you would trade an opportunity like that that would further your career to be with a man, who probably will end up breaking your heart. i feel like my mother taught me to have the kinds of views i have because shes basically everything that i dont want to be. she depends on my father when i know she can be independent and my dad is a typical alpha male who treats her badly and makes her believe that she cant do anything. its kind of depressing to just witness it. and girls are constantly putting themselves in the position where they can just depend on a guy, and its so sad to hear about it. my sister dedicates her whole life to her boyfriend. it irritates me. sometimes i feel like im not being as sensitive but these are my views because i was once someone who wanted to just get married and that would be the solution. but its not the solution and some girls dont realize that

[megatons]

my sister seems to be missing that part of the brain that holds the common sense factor..but then again people tend not to listen to friends/family when they're so much in love. they were together 5/6 yrs before they got married and she had to like force him to do so. he's a deadbeat dad and all around douche bag of a person...but she has learned a lot from this and won't let something ruin her life again.

i'm the same way you are. i think it's stupid when girls fuss over guys. i was upset when my friend got last year at 19 to her on/off again douche bag boyfriend. i think he only married her cause she was prego. guys don't want relationships nowadays..they just want ass and girls are just too insecure to see that and that's what scares me about the world :/ but hey what can you do. it's weird because it's like i've seen you grow up through the years (on TOD and lj) and i am so happy you're one of the girls who have learned from past mistakes and became a smarter/stronger person for it.

[__essa]

omg i know! i feel like we all been through so much and were all going through this together! you need to visit california and we need to hang out and meet up for reals. its been like almost 10 years. well i dont know if its that insane, but its pretty close to that. maybe 8 years or something. i joined tod when i was like 13 or 14 and 8 years later...were all adults making decisions. crazy!