he is extremely insecure. so that pathetic-ness just kind of bleeds through constantly. I think he has some co-dependency issues. Like if he thinks I am mad at him or annoyed, he will come over early in the morning and shovel out my car and scrape all the windows. He is desperate for me to love him and approve of him, even if he loses his "self". Its like he figures, if he is ultimate nice-guy, then I can't possibly break up with him. He also has what I believe to be undiagnosed, untreated ADHD, which means he can be hyperactive and excitable which I just have a very low tolerance for. On the other hand, he is crazy about me, a very good communicator, thoughtful, respectful. We come from similar social-economic backgrounds, my family and all my friends like him a bunch, and at least financially, he is not a sponge like most of my other relationships have been. Unfortunately he is an emotional sponge which is exhausting.
Depends on whether or not you can live with it, or whether or not he can change. My relationship is sort of the opposite with Chris, he is not necessarily annoying but there are lots of things about his personality that make the relationship difficult to work. I love him so much, but sometimes we butt heads on silly things that build up to larger things. I think to myself: can I deal with the way Chris is forever? If I can deal with it, am I happy? If I am unhappy or cannot deal with it, is there a way to work on it with him so he can change the things that are making it not work
( ... )
Yeah, well Brian and I have talked about this stuff. Like, a lot. Whether or not he will listen to me when I say "I need space" remains to be seen. Time will tell I guess.
Comments 6
Reply
Reply
Reply
Reply
Reply
Reply
Leave a comment