If you and Jeff don't agree.. then don't do it. My motto on engagement is(well..this is my new motto on getting engaged because up until a few months ago, I wanted to rush it a bit as well) if you two already feel that eventually you will get engaged and marry - why rush it? Eventually - it will happen! What does it matter if you return home engaged - you would probably still wait the same amount of time to get married that you would if you DIDN'T get engaged right now.
I agree, I think you should wait. My Fiance and I moved in together first and then got engaged about 7 months later. You kind of don't exactly know someone until you live with them, but it is all about what you & your boyfriend think is right... Don't rush would be my advice though. Enjoy every moment of being boyfriend/girlfriend right now. Theres much time in the future to enjoy being engaged, being married, etc etc..
remember that it's your lives. yours and his, not your mom's. if you really care what she thinks, talk to her: does she really think it's better for you to rush into something that you aren't ready for, and that you don't know will work since you've never lived together, rather than taking it slow and making sure it's the right decision at the right time?
ben and i have lived together sinec august, been dating since june 2004, and still don't plan on getting married for several years. but we know we will, we've already talked about it, so there's no need to rush it. also, i don't know your specific situation, but it's generally a good idea to talk about what you both want in marriage/life. a couples counselor is a good place to start.
Sometimes parents push things like this to justify such a long relationship. My mom did it/is doing it with my younger sister. She's not pushing for marriage but she's pushing my sister to make sense of a relationship she's had for 5 years now without much progress. Listen to only what you and he have to say. It's a choice that will affect just you two. Parents push for things, they usually know what's best BUT if he wants to wait that means that at least 1 of the 2 doens't agree on pushing for it to be sooner than later. If you haven't spent more than 3 months at a time together than maybe you should live together or at least in the same town for a year or so. No rush, right? If it's meant to be it will happen.
Though I'm totally wanting to rush everything asap! hahaha I'm just so excited to think about marriage! I love it!
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My motto on engagement is(well..this is my new motto on getting engaged because up until a few months ago, I wanted to rush it a bit as well) if you two already feel that eventually you will get engaged and marry - why rush it? Eventually - it will happen! What does it matter if you return home engaged - you would probably still wait the same amount of time to get married that you would if you DIDN'T get engaged right now.
Did I make any sense? lol
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ben and i have lived together sinec august, been dating since june 2004, and still don't plan on getting married for several years. but we know we will, we've already talked about it, so there's no need to rush it. also, i don't know your specific situation, but it's generally a good idea to talk about what you both want in marriage/life. a couples counselor is a good place to start.
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Though I'm totally wanting to rush everything asap! hahaha
I'm just so excited to think about marriage! I love it!
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