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[alyssa_tyler]

Dear anybody,
do you sabotage your relationships without meaning or wanting to? Did you ever fix it within yourself so you don't anymore? Any advice if so?

Comments

[rosewein]

I think this is a very common issue. you need to figure out how it works for you. what do you do? when do you do it? do you have triggers? learning to not say things i didn't mean was a big one for me, i don't do it now(or nearly). be as honest as you can with your partner, "in the past i have", "when i behave like this, it don't mean it ". you can ask for help from your partner to avoid certain situations and point out when your acting crazy. communication is key.

[rosewein]

I do it when I'm depressed/down, I've lost both grandparents and my dad in twelve months and I'm only just starting to grieve. so with being down I'm even harder on myself, feel super insecure and needy. Of which isn't me at all, well not really - everyone had a soft side. And then I feel threatened, I look for things to feel threatened by, just to prove to myself that I'm right. I'm just crazy me thinks. Xxx

[kosmicseer]

This is a great comment.

Awareness is the first step. I believe therapy helps if the problem is severe or long-term. BTW-I hope your LJ name is not your real name, because that would be a bad idea.

[rosewein]

you posted another comment which i read on my phone and then forgot ot respond to. my advice would be if you display behavior you feel is not you, say so. as soon as possible. take some time away from a person if you feel yourself croading them. try and behave remote from outside yourself and in hopes of reprogramming your behavior.

[hedoesntgetit]

I fixed it when I found the right person. I didn't care enough to with the others.

[yo_wtf]

love is a powerful thing. when its there btwn two people, anything can happen. b strong. be honest. dont be afraid