Being the Subject of Unrequited Love is also Painful

[theidolhands]

Another article that I thought others with the same, or similar, personality types might appreciate due to our various sensitivities. This one is from The New York Times, written by By DANIEL GOLEMAN, it's an oldie, but a goodie in terms of psychology.

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Pain of Unrequited Love Afflicts the Rejecter, Too

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[helenatroy]

hmmm. In almost every case of unrequited love I got caught up in the other person was doing something to encourage it. Methinks they left this whole dynamic out of the picture. In particular the pattern of the person who has a partner that they are not completely happy with, but whom they will not leave, and who, forex, gains some kind of fantasy freedom by flirting and not following through. Usually the person who falls for this is very insecure and goes through a difficult time as a result.

[theidolhands]

This is a good point and a scenario I have also seen, in lay terms I believe it's referred to as "cheating" (albeit it starts at flirting as a way to fish for someone to cheat with). And if I understand correctly what you're saying, I've found the behavior insulting, although it's meant to be flattering.

I've also had people fib and say they were in an "open" relationship, when this would've been news to their partner.