Comments | _lauren_: Its tough to be soft in a hard city

_lauren_

Its tough to be soft in a hard city

Sep 22, 2006 12:25

I've been noticing that I'm not my usual chipper and friendly self towards strangers lately and I think the cause of it is living in this city. Now before anyone objects, I'd like to point out that its very easy to be friendly with a person you like or a stranger who automatically is friendly towards you. I think friendliness begets friendliness ( Read more... )

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just thinking.... ultracrush September 25 2006, 02:06:11 UTC

hmmm... when I think of deserving something, I think of earning it first.

I find it ironic that you used "selfish" in such a negative way. When you talk about love, existence, morals, ethics, beliefs, lifestyles- i'm sure you will agree that it's completely subjective. That it's your life and you should live it your own way. That it's a beautiful, wonderful thing to pursue your own goals, to find your own answers, to think for yourself, to be free to be happy your own way.

If we can only see the world through our own eyes and live our own lives- its impossible to live someone else's for them- then our existence is selfish by nature. But people beat themselves up and carry this mantle of guilt for being selfish. For thinking of themselves first. For seeing the world from the only point of view they can ever truly see it from... their own... an automatic function of living.

I will never, ever understand this.

mrsmiles September 26 2006, 01:26:55 UTC

You touched on something I wanted to make notice about:

The majority of people out there are defintely NOT initiators.

I say this because I was reading something about a big group of people (strangers to each other) who died in a fire because they each expected someone else to be the initiator and run when the fire alarms first came on.

I don't remember the situation, but it was something like sitting in a restaurant and hearing the fire alarm, but not getting up to leave because nobody else is doing so. Whatever the situation was, in the end everyone died.

We definitely need more initiators on this planet.

So let me ask you, upon this reflection, have you made a decision about changing this behavior or something?

_lauren_ September 26 2006, 02:43:34 UTC

Oh of course. I know that I used to be more of an initiator in the areas I was writing about but lately thats changed. I'm working towards fixing it.

Thats a pretty bad story though. I know I've been in hunter before when the fire alarm went off and no one moved. Everytime thats happened I've always thought about the chance that it isn't a false alarm.

mrsmiles September 27 2006, 21:06:27 UTC

Exactly, I don't care how much of an inconvenience or how dorky I look for reacting to the fire alarm, but when it goes off, kindergarten training kicks in and I'm out the door waitin outside.

Plus I can't miss class or anything, no one can say anything because there was a fire alarm and I actually reacted to it.

Better to be safe than sorry you know? If I react 1,000 times to something and initiate, or even 1,000,000 times, and only ONE out of those times saves my life or something, lol it's worth it.