this is why i must breath....

[_manhattan]

My life is a mess. I know this. I am a mess. I want to break away from the horrible way that I was raised. My narcissistic Mother can only think of herself right now. Everything is about her. My Sister called to inform her of Monsters arrest yesterday.. This morning I get a call from her and she says to me, "I don't know what you are trying

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[andshedied]

((hugs))
I am sorry. You've just got to continue on and do what is right. I am sorry that your mother can't see that she should stand behind her daughters. Stay strong.

[tinygalaxies]

I don't know what to say, but I understand why your mom is behaving the way that she is. She was in a relationship with him (I'm assuming) and women in abusive relationships think this way - they often don't let go, and she's probably viewing him as the victim now in -your absolutely right - her own selfish delusion.

I'm glad for what you did, and I hope that this goes as smoothly as possible *hug*

[alison525]

(((HUGS))) I consider my parents birth parents too. I wish I had been raised by different people, and I too, hope I have a different relationship with my own daughter. I often wonder how I would have turned out if I had been raised by different people. I probably wouldn't be the mess that I am today.

With that said, don't let your mother make you feel bad. In time, hopefully she will grasp the reality, and come to her senses. It took my mom many, many years, and even though our relationship will never be good, she is finally started to believe my side of the story, so to say.

[eloiseaparis]

i know it is hard with a narcissistic mother (because i have one), but try not to be too hard on her. unless we identify the situation and work ourselves away from it (like i did; like you are doing), most people are only as whole as those who raised them. no matter what you say, she'll never understand. all you can do is everything you can NOT to be like her; not to be like either of them. it is not the easiest road, but rest assured that there are others like you. you are not alone. xx.

[xo_ms_understod]

((hugs))

You are an amazing Mother. Don't ever doubt that.

xoxo