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[macabre]

What do you do when you have issues in your relationship, but your partner doesn't seem interested in getting counseling

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[macabre]

I currently don't have any insurance.

[macabre]

No, we can't afford it. I am working on getting some insurance, I just need to lose some weight first so it will be cheaper.

[kitashla]

You can't work on a marriage alone. It's got to be a joint effort.:(

I went through this with mine. He started talking separation and I started talking counseling. He'd already decided it was over. (Which was ironic as 2 years before HE was the one pushing counseling.)

I realized that I couldn't make him do anything he didn't want to. Worried about myself. Went away for a bit. Now we BOTH want counseling, but we can't afford/can't get baby sitters to go. *grin*

That said, maybe he's just really effing lazy? If it's just that, go with babity's suggestion.

[sirenphotos]

Haha that's funny our "talks" have usually been me crying and yelling about all the issues. I think personally it has been my fault for letting things fester and then getting to boiling/over flow point and blowing up.

Thank goodness we're both in a better place now.

[batman]

Does he know how close you are to leaving? Maybe if he knew, he would suddenly "remember" to call.

[macabre]

Yes, I've told him before. I don't know if he really cares.

[photogfrog]

That comment worries more than anything.

[abbyb1]

That comment worries more than anything

Me too!

The fact that you're threatening to leave and that isn't motivating him to work on it doesn't bode well for how much he prioritizes your marriage.

Normally, I would be loathe to advise you to leave, but all things considered, I don't really see how you have an option here. He may need to know how serious you are about leaving and feel what his life would be like without you.

Good luck!

[suicidekitty911]

get his insurance card out of his wallet? that's what i would do, but my husband and i have no problem going through each others wallet/purse to get something we need (money, credit cards, business cards, whatever - i always tell him i'm doing it, though.)

[macabre]

I may have to do that, thanks.