sometimes people have a lot more to deal with then ever shows past the surface... problems we can only guess at, or dream of, and they can't share them, maybe because they don't even realize... sometimes even though you love them, you just can't know, or help, and the only thing you can do is let go.
and sometimes, people owe it to those about whom they (say they) care to tell them the truth, no matter how difficult it may be. in fact, it would be better for her to dig down and face it than to simply cut herself off from the one who cares so much about her. people need closure, and a kick in the nuts out of the blue does not give that. I'm done making excuses for her, I see him suffering every day. he's given her the space she said she needed, now it is time for her to give him what he needs. Sorry to be harsh, but you know me well enough to know that I speak my mind.
disclaimer that i don't know what went on - at all - just replying from my own perspective that people aren't always strong enough, or healthy enough, to do the right things. and that loving people despite their weaknesses can be hard.
it also can be really hard to face people when you're ashamed, or afraid. and doubly so is you fear a harsh response.
and i know none of this excuses the weakness, or apologizes for it... just offering a possible explaination after having gone through years of living with someone who regularly hid.
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**HUGS**
If you need a friend, you know I'm here.
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though it hurts. and really stinks.
*love*
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it also can be really hard to face people when you're ashamed, or afraid. and doubly so is you fear a harsh response.
and i know none of this excuses the weakness, or apologizes for it... just offering a possible explaination after having gone through years of living with someone who regularly hid.
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*hugs*
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