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[_october_night]

man, i have an issue. I like a boy, one of my bestfriends likes this boy. This boy says he likes me but he had made out with my friend while drunk. I kissed this boy last night.....is that right? can i date him?? my friend has a boy toy and likes another guy also..dont i get a say in any of the guys or is that still against all "codes". I am sooo

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[trist]

at least you feel bad about it. i mean, not that you should but the point is, it shows that you are a good enough friend to care about what your friend thinks about you liking someone. here's what i think. if you like the boy, you should talk to your friend about it. there are two kinds of boys. or situations, i guess. 1st, there are guys that are not okay to date... unless you ask, then it just becomse okay. 2 there are guys that will never be okay for your friend to date. a friend of mine dated brad's brother david a while back. even though it was like 4 years ago, it just doesnt make it okay for any of her friends to ever date him. and by any, i mean good ones, just beucase we all knwo that we would never do that to her, nomatter how long ago it was, at least not without asking. then, there are guys like pat (lol) where its upsetting when your friend does osmething with him without talking to you, even if it shouldnt matter. sometimes it just does. i think the code your thinking of is kind of that you dont date or do stuff

[tigerz_eye29]

Sounds like your in somewhat of the same position as I was between you me and Steve. I say talk to your friend but really consider what it could be doing to your friendship. Think about how you felt, do you really want to lose someones trust, and loyalty in you? Be careful, and I hope things work out.

[twinkletoes2558]

Olivia, YOU should be the most important person to YOU.

I recognize that this may sound bitchy and self-centered, but because everyone else left such nice comments about talking to you friend and being cautious about the situation, I figured I'd remind you that that, even though being a good friend is important, being true and fair to yourself is even more important. If a person isn't happy and doesn't respect his or her own desires and gut feelings about a situation, then he or she can't be a very good friend anyway.

I really hope this all works out for the best, girl.   :-)

[_october_night]

hmm not going to lie i love emmas comment the best! I know i need to tell her, and i know that if she was head over heels i would never even have thought of this situation. Just cause i know how she is and what not. The problem is is that i dont no what to say. I mean i dont even know if him and Ireally want to date or if it is one of those summer things. I like him cause i dont have to be werid around him, i never am nervous, and i dont ask my friends to pick out my cloths(bigg deal for me). But its because of those times like with steve and then with what happened with pat that i realize how bad it can hurt even though it does not look that dangerous on the outside. I think i am going to talk to nikki tell her i have feelings so she knows but not rush anything with him so it gives time for everyone to figure there stuff out and that i dont ruin a friendship with either of them. Cause really they are really good friends to so i have to make sure that stays good.
Thanks for the adivce guys....they all really helped.