Body language...

[_phaedrus_]

You know how some people are color blind?  I think some people are body language blind.  Let me preface this by saying I'm totally stoked about my student sysadmin whom I hired last year.  He's a really smart, amazingly productive person...but he insists on giving me the play-by-play of every little change he makes and what broke and what's great

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[_phaedrus_]

Yeah, I'm all about the diplomacy and I have diplomatically communicated this kind of thing before on a few occasions. I think he just gets wrapped up in the geek excitement and wants to share it all with me. No matter how I tell him not to share, I'm putting a big damper on his fun by making him keep it to himself. Oh, well. I'm pretty good about saying something when it goes from just annoying to totally unbearable. :)

[effelleven]

P.S. - The Engineering room has a lock.

[_phaedrus_]

Hah! Now there's an idea...

[gjunell]

You're going to have to grow a spine and say something.

You can say anything if you can say it with love.

On the other hand, some people can't get that clue either. That's why people have headphones at work. Tell em... when these are on my head, stay away!

[_phaedrus_]

I've told him before but when something new and exciting comes along he always feels compelled to share it. Like I told Zannie, I'm pretty good about speaking up when it goes from just annoying to unbearable. I don't want to ruin his fun unless I have to.
The headphones would be a good idea if music weren't so distracting for me. I can't work or read or concentrate on anything when I'm listening to music. Most people I know are the opposite.

Leave em Off

[gjunell]

You don't have to turn on the headphones, just wear them.

Re: Leave em Off

[_phaedrus_]

Well hells bells! Maybe I'll just put up a sign that says "The doctor is In/Out" above my workspace and leave the headphones out of it. Hehehe...

[gorillashaman]

He wants your approval.

[_phaedrus_]

Normally I would agree with you but I think he just gets that excited about systems and how they work. He's definitely more of a geek than me and seems to be fairly independent so I don't get the impression that he is necessarily seeking my approval. He's just easily excited and wants to share. :)

LMAO

[fiametta]

It's funny but on my friends page right above this entry, is someone else's entry saying "Congratulations, you just won a nice big can of shut the fuck up"
Serendipitous? Maybe you need an ipod.

Re: LMAO

[fiametta]

ps, it sucks sometimes but the only way to be sure ppl know what you want is to tell them...nicely. I can relate, b/c I sometimes worry that I won't be able to tell people in a way that won't cause them to freak out and get hurt, but it usually is pretty painless and makes me feel better to just do it.

Re: LMAO

[_phaedrus_]

Yeah, it's an art that you tune over your lifetime. I've gotten pretty good at stating things and/or asking for things in a diplomatic way. Mostly what makes me hesitate is not whether I'll hurt his feelings (because I don't think that I will) but that I'll ruin his fun. There's a fine but necessary division between the two.

communication

[fiametta]

I agree, that stating one's own opinion in a diplomatic way is very simple. However, I have definitely learned a few new things about communicating effectively over the years. I think being in a (healthy) relationship (that works) teaches one alot about how to communicate when something isn't working

[effelleven]

I thought I was always pretty good at picking up on your body language...although you hit on me A LOT!

[_phaedrus_]

Yeah, sorry about that. Sometimes I can be a little flirty after my morning coffee.

[_phaedrus_]

PS. I get more compliments on that Sigmund Freud action figure you left me. It's a great conversation piece and it's still hanging right above my monitor.