ah, growing up.....

[_playintraffic]

how big of a deal should sex be? i used to have it all figured out for myself, but now i'm not so sure. some people freak out and feel extremely guilty if they get a boner or have a wet dream. (granted, most of them are probably 10 or so, but i'm not a boy so i'm not really sure). on the other extreme, some watch shitloads of porn all day and don't

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[scifigirl]

Well here's my take on it: I haven't made it anywhere near first base in real life, which is kind of pathetic considering I am almost 21 years old, but I'm ok with that, kind of. I mean what are you going to do about it? I just need to throw my lack of real world experience out there first so you know where I am coming from. Visual porn like you typical 2 am fair on skinamax disgusts me. I come away feeling dirty and unclean as well as completely un aroused. Written porn, now that is another thing entirely for me, maybe it is because I can use my imagination but it doesn't make me feel dirty when I read it, sure if I got "caught" with it I would still be embarrassed, but for me it's just different And it has nothing to do with the fact that I just got done with this incredibly hot, kinky, NC-17 Sheppard/McKay fanfic, nope not at all. Of course that is what I read for written porn, fanfic about fake characters usually from science fiction TV shows, huh, we may have just stumbled on a reason for my lack of action in RL. It

[moonlight_falls]

I've been feeling that way about a lot of things lately.

[happinessiseasy]

I've found that sex itself is only as big of a deal as you make it. It's only important that you and your partner connect on how important it is, and that one of you doesn't think it's more important than the other.

But what I'm inferring here is that you're not talking about sex per se, but just general sexuality with regard to thoughts and actions. As far as the boners/wet dreams/porn thing, as far as I'm concerned that kinda stuff is personal. It's like saying "How should I feel about laundry?" It doesn't much matter outside of your own life, unless you start neglecting your friends to go do laundry and such. Or if you go to laundromats alone. That's just sad.