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[secretforabuck]

Have you ever been in a limbo of not sure how you feel about someone - friends, romantic, or sibling-type love?

How did you figure it out and why was it so confusing for you?

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[anonymous]

Yes, I've been in a limbo like this with my best friend. I was confused because my feelings for her were really strong - the type of stuff that I normally associate with romantic feelings, such as being unable to imagine my life without her, wanting to follow her anywhere, etc. But in the end it's not romantic love for a simple reason: I love her, but I don't have truly romantic feelings for her. I don't want to date her, etc. You'd think that'd be enough to clear it up right away, but it wasn't. xD

Though, I do often think that if I truly fell in love with her, and it was mutual, then it'd be the most amazing thing ever and I'd never have to feel lonely again. But I can't make myself fall in love with her, and she'll never feel the same way anyway. So I'm happy that we're such good friends. ♥

[anonymous]

four years later, i'm still trying to figure it out. sometimes i'm over her, sometimes i'd give my left arm to have her back. i don't know if i'll ever figure out how i feel or why i feel it.

[anonymous]

Yes. He's my best friend's younger brother and even though I've known him for five years, we didn't become 'proper' friends until about four months back. He used to be the annoying little kid who barged in on us when we were having sleepovers, but now he's grown up into a goodlooking guy with a great sense of humour. I really don't know how to label my feelings towards him and I think the feeling is mutual. It really is part sibling affection, part friendship and part lust. I can't admit that I find him attractive (and have acted upon it with him a couple of times) to anybody but a very select few, but that attraction feels almost incestuous since we've known each other for so long. There's an odd kind of tension between us that no amount of bantering backwards and forwards can alleviate. We'll see where it ends up, but my guess is we'll stick with 'just friends'.

[anonymous]

lately yes.
i happen to like a guy who i know for half of my life and liked him for more than 3 years, he left for studies for around 3, coming back every few months. Nothing much has happened except we exchanged birthday presents. I have no idea how he feels. Sometimes I'm not even sure if I still like him or just the idea of being with a guy like him.

another guy is my best friend. and everyone seems to think we have a thing or something. we've been to 2 sort-of dates. he's a very friendly guy to everyone, and maybe it's because he's really easy to talk to, it's easy for me to share things with him. the thing is i know he likes someone else and he knows i like another guy (we're in the same group). but lately, he text things like 'i miss you' and 'love you so so much' that i'm getting very confused. i asked him about it, but he said he just feels like saying it. i'm really confused. is this how he usually talks to the other friends or what?

[anonymous]

Just about every relationship I find myself in.
Still trying to figure that one out.