I won't flame you. :) I agree, sometimes it gets so complicated. In my own life, I'm seeing a situation coming up where I could see justifiable... not "reason" maybe, but "cause"... for my husband to cheat. It would hurt me, but I could understand why, and maybe we could work through it. Of course, I'm already talking to him about my concerns and fears, so hopefully we can work things through before they happen, you know?
yes, exactly. I think admitting the possibility that you could (yourself/myself) cheat on someone - acknowledging that we are creatures capable of failure - can open up a healthy discussion with others. I think that having a high-and-mighty position on the subject and an accusatory tone can almost make someone feel like a criminal before they commit the crime, and then they have nothing to lose. I hope you work it out with your husband :)
I wanted to say I really liked your point of view on this. I am actually going through this situation right now. after dating a guy for almost 2 years i found out he cheated on me. We both want to work things out but like you said its so complicated! We are both at a loss of what to do next and none of our friends are supportive. So thank you for posting this, it gave me back some hope that i was starting to lose.
only you know the in-and-outs of your situation. I bet its probably a bit sketchy between you and your guy. I'm sorry to say I've never heard of a cheating situation working out, because that loss of trust is so devastating. Even small unrelated comments can seem insinuating or a reminder. But I don't think it is impossible to get it working again.
I love my current gf so much at the moment I could forgive her anything, and I know this from the deepest part of my heart. But I also know we have been 100% honest from day 1, that nothing goes unsaid.
From my previous bumps in the road, I would say that it is worthwhile focusing on the experience, as it is the challenges in life that help us grow. Whatever happens, you will still be you, and better for it, and happiness will continue to enter your life :)
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only you know the in-and-outs of your situation. I bet its probably a bit sketchy between you and your guy. I'm sorry to say I've never heard of a cheating situation working out, because that loss of trust is so devastating. Even small unrelated comments can seem insinuating or a reminder. But I don't think it is impossible to get it working again.
I love my current gf so much at the moment I could forgive her anything, and I know this from the deepest part of my heart. But I also know we have been 100% honest from day 1, that nothing goes unsaid.
From my previous bumps in the road, I would say that it is worthwhile focusing on the experience, as it is the challenges in life that help us grow. Whatever happens, you will still be you, and better for it, and happiness will continue to enter your life :)
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