mawwwwwage... that sacwwwwed awwwangement...1nynaeve8August 24 2003, 16:02:35 UTC
I think the fact that the home you came back to after the honeymoon was the same you were in before... and you'd been living there together for some time... has an effect on how little things feel like they have changed.
For me, going from living by myself in space that was very much my own for so many years... then moving in to a new place -- with cyb -- after the honeymoon made the transition to wedded quite notable.
congratulations on buying a house. that's big exciting stuff.
As for the boyfriend/husband thing. I felt the same way after we got married. Nothing seemed different. The big adjustments had happened when we moved in together. And then when the kid came along, but that was 8 years later. :)
all too firmilar stuff...... we're trying to rearragne our lives for baby and as we haven't ever lived anyhwere as long as here I hjave accumlated tons of stuff....... no moving to make me sift.... I love it all it's hard to let go of it......
As for marriage chnaging things..... I don't think it was my marraige that chnaged things but what we went through to get there....... but mostly nothing is different...... I have a different last name and that still looks and sounds weird.....but other then that i feel the same as you........the big commitment here was when we bought our home and I was a home owner at 21!
at the end of the day...cyb3rjAugust 26 2003, 04:39:49 UTC
... you two are still who you are.
i think this society, somehow, along with hollywood trump up marriage to be a grand metamophasis that makes to-the-core changes in each person. thankfully, that isn't the case, or we may all end up finding that we didn't like who we married (and some people who expect a marriage-metamophasis find just that)!
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For me, going from living by myself in space that was very much my own for so many years... then moving in to a new place -- with cyb -- after the honeymoon made the transition to wedded quite notable.
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As for the boyfriend/husband thing. I felt the same way after we got married. Nothing seemed different. The big adjustments had happened when we moved in together. And then when the kid came along, but that was 8 years later. :)
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we're trying to rearragne our lives for baby and as we haven't ever lived anyhwere as long as here I hjave accumlated tons of stuff....... no moving to make me sift.... I love it all it's hard to let go of it......
As for marriage chnaging things..... I don't think it was my marraige that chnaged things but what we went through to get there....... but mostly nothing is different...... I have a different last name and that still looks and sounds weird.....but other then that i feel the same as you........the big commitment here was when we bought our home and I was a home owner at 21!
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:)
Congrats on the house!
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i think this society, somehow, along with hollywood trump up marriage to be a grand metamophasis that makes to-the-core changes in each person. thankfully, that isn't the case, or we may all end up finding that we didn't like who we married (and some people who expect a marriage-metamophasis find just that)!
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