Fuck.

[a_celtic_pirate]

So came home to my mother knackered. Apparently when she brought my dad to the doctors today they did a PET scan. Then promptly discovered that his cancer has now moved into his lungs. I guess tomorrow or Friday he goes in for surgery so they can take some for a biopsy to see if it's still the skin cancer or if he's developed a second cancer along

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[somewhatcliche]

Oh hun! I am so not qualified to give you advice on this, but I am so, so sorry-about all of it. What a crazy situation. You'll work it out; do whatever you can, and what you feel is right.

My thoughts are with you and your family. Be strong!!

[syzygy_lj]

If you figure out how to fix things with your dad, could you tell me how?

My dad and I are going through something similar. He used to be my buddy, and now, I can barely stand to be around him. In the past few years, he has become a real asshole. I love my dad. But I don't really like him much.

I know some of it is because of his health: the diabetes, the sleep apnea he refuses to have diagnosed, his heart condition, his thyroid, andropause, or some combination of all of that. But knowing that doesn't make it any easier when we fight, or he ruins family gatherings, or says something offensive that embarrasses me in front of my in-laws. He has gone from being my Daddy to this mannerless jerk that pisses everyone off. And I don't know how to deal with it.

I'm sorry you have to go through all this. It's hard to watch your parents get old, and it's hard to be the one to have to hold everyone else together. I hope you're OK.

[black_raven135]

Can I just give you a big ****HUG****
It is the best I can do given the circumstances you relate.