My 93-year-old grandmother died in April, and I was a mess. Crying jags through the wake, funeral mass, and burial, random crying jags and stretches of depression for a few weeks, depression with fewer tears as it turned around two months afterward. Writing this nearly four months later, I'm getting teary. And she was someone I saw frequently but I didn't have her as a parent or live with her. The priest could've been a total babe and I might notice for a moment during my grief but wouldn't spend much time on it.
I understand what you mean about the small mundane detail of thinking that Pops would've wanted underwear being effective and humanizing. We put a lot of thought into her outfit and jewelry and the photos we would leave with her. During the open coffin wake, I was amazed by the makeup and styling they gave her; she'd been well put-together through her life but as she'd gotten sicker in the last few years she'd stopped bothering as much, and in her last four months she'd really stopped, which made us think her end must be
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It seems that when Quinn describes his attraction to men, it's in terms of their personalities, faces, and eyes, whereas when he's talking about his attraction to women, he's like "hurrhurr boobs." He seems to want to use women as sex toys while the true attraction he feels, emotional components and all, is to men.
Possibly this is because Anne Rice's viewpoint characters are all Anne Rice, and since she's both sexist and feels no attraction for women, she has problems getting in the head of anyone who would want a woman as more than a masturbatory aid. Unless that woman is even more of a self-insert than most of her protagonists are. LKH shares this trait. Most female writers don't have this problem at all, but I wonder how much Anne Rice's legacy has made it more prevalent in paranormal than in other genres.
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I understand what you mean about the small mundane detail of thinking that Pops would've wanted underwear being effective and humanizing. We put a lot of thought into her outfit and jewelry and the photos we would leave with her. During the open coffin wake, I was amazed by the makeup and styling they gave her; she'd been well put-together through her life but as she'd gotten sicker in the last few years she'd stopped bothering as much, and in her last four months she'd really stopped, which made us think her end must be ( ... )
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Possibly this is because Anne Rice's viewpoint characters are all Anne Rice, and since she's both sexist and feels no attraction for women, she has problems getting in the head of anyone who would want a woman as more than a masturbatory aid. Unless that woman is even more of a self-insert than most of her protagonists are. LKH shares this trait. Most female writers don't have this problem at all, but I wonder how much Anne Rice's legacy has made it more prevalent in paranormal than in other genres.
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