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[aaronpileggi]

twenty three - first of all i must say, it has been a while since I have updated my journal....i am sorry for that but i was in europe and then i got back and was mentally drained from the basically month long spring break - for any new readers i have to suggest starting from 1 and making it to number 23, then you will understand me and my "journal

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[allaboutluv]

Morose is blue, mellow...I think. I don't think it's a catch 22...I think that the people who want what they can't have don't really know what the "want" is...by that I mean that what they see looks sooooo good seems sooooo good, but then when they do get it reality wakes them up they see that person in their entirety and the fairy tale is a bust. The prince really isn't and the princess really isn't. A lot of people end up settling because their wants aren't reality based and they just don't know it. They end up saying "well...this is as good as it's gonna get" because the disappointment settles in and we realize there really isn't a fairy tale after all. And a better question to those people would be why do you want what you want? A lot of times what we want is not based on healthy desires or needs, it's based on whatever we went through in growing up or the way we were raised but our hearts sometimes speak loudly and they combat each other "I know this is no good for me but why do I keep going after this type of person or want that

[allaboutluv]

oh and confidence should not need to come from others...I am confident all on my own...it's pleasant to hear stuff but it in no way changes my confidence about me...if you rely on others or need others to boost your confidence you will be let down and sometimes even find yourself saying things or dressing a certain way just to get those words. And if you need something to "back it up" you have issues I say...you should either have it or not...and cocky would be talking about how good your are or good looking...and then I make my point...that would just be getting compliments from yourself now instead of others...the problem arises when you need others or your own outward words to boost your confidence...I say either you know it or you don't...everyone is beautiful and unique or talented in their own way...the key to your own self confidence is believing that and seeing it...and if you don't there is prolly a reason

[aaronpileggi]

i meant catch 22 in the sense that a lot of times you need confidence to get members of the oppostie sex, but in order to have confidence you need to have gotten some members of the opposite sex to know you can....and you didnt take my whole confidence point as i intended. yes i agree confidence should be a result of you, and not BASED on what others say, but i dont think thats possible without other people. you cannot just wake up one day, look in the mirror and say "i have pretty eyes" and then think for the rest of your life that you have pretty eyes even tho nobody has ever agreed with you. if that was the case, in theory youd be walking around with these ugly eyes thinking they are so pretty, and people would get pissed because they really arent very pretty. im saying those who love you, and thats a big part of this point, give you a basis or an idea and help to develop a lot of confidence. if you are 12 and youve never thought about your eyes before, then a couple people say "you have pretty eyes", then you will look at them and

aaron i was with you until...

[woodenboogers]

Your little note in here.

“You cannot just wake up one day, look in the mirror and say, "I have pretty eyes" and then think for the rest of your life that you have pretty eyes even thou nobody has ever agreed with you.”

I don’t think you have to have someone reinforce the fact that you have pretty eyes, (and this may be the hard part with you being so cocky and all) but for most people because YOU think you have pretty eyes does not mean that you go around and talk about it and need someone to back it up.
I happen to think I have pretty eyes I LIKE THE WAY THEY LOOK. So say if you were to say Lila I don’t like them so much. What do I care? You’re not me. They’re not your eyes. (I’m not taking this personally; just speaking as a confident woman, don’t misunderstand me.)

Never the less I am very impressed that someone as self centered as you seem to be you are capable of having such deep thought, kudos to you.

Re: aaron i was with you until...

[bucwildbob]

hahahahahahah

Re: aaron i was with you until...

[aaronpileggi]

WOAH WOAH, everyone take notice. For the first time in the history of the world we have come across the young lady who is completely unaffected by other people. Congrats, on being a robot disguised as a human. Yes, we all want to be that way (unaffected) but I'm sorry honey, nobody is really that impermeable with their views. (this may be the hard part with you being so robot and all)
On a second note, thanks for enlightening me on being self centered, thats a new one. Never the less I am very impressed that someone can make such lofty and false assumptions about a person, yet has the know-how to TRY and cover those cut-downs up with a compliment, kudos to you.

Re: aaron i was with you until...

[woodenboogers]

Touché

Well there it went, now your getting defensive, and your missing my point. What I was saying is that people do not NEED to have others approval to be confident.

And as far as the comments that I make about you, are nothing that you haven’t made about your self.

Never the less I am not here to banter with you. The rest of your entry had a good point and my original intention was just to simply let you know that.

Jared's response

[anonymous]

Aaron

Re: Jared's response

[allaboutluv]

Jared you are a very eloquent person. It is apparent that you are a Christian as well. Pretty much that's what I was trying to say...I think you did a better job. I know some people rely too much on others for their confidence. Just really liked the way you put things...well done I say!!