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Feb 28, 2010 17:13

My birth did not go well. I started prodomal labor Thursday night and it went on for about 36 hours at home before going to the birth center Saturday night. I should have known something was wrong when I got checked and was still at a 6 because the pain was excruciating and I don't think it was supposed to be. It was horrible back pain that ( Read more... )

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sayga February 28 2010, 22:22:52 UTC

I am so sorry your birth went so far from your original plan. What a big baby she is! Congratulations! I hope you are able to figure out your nursing problems quickly and get on track there. *really big hugs* By the way, it's ok and normal that you feel it's your fault, but please be gentle with yourself; it really isn't your fault!

faithandworks February 28 2010, 22:25:43 UTC

I am so so sorry that things didn't go the way you had seen them going. Sounds like you had a very traumatic time, and my heart goes out to you. *hugs*

With regards to the feeding - and that is the thing to focus on right now, take a deep breath. You can do this. I would strongly recommend getting in touch with your local La Leche League group - the nearest to you can be found here: http://www.llli.org/WebUS.html
Also, there is a superb breastfeeding support community here on livejournal called breastfeeding - both will be able to give you the support and help you need to get through this tough time. Of course you are overwhelmed; any one would be in your shoes. Just hang in there, and trust that you can turn things around. And if you need to talk or more info, (not wanting to throw too much at you and overwhelm you even more), just yell.

piperki February 28 2010, 22:43:38 UTC

Seconding the LLL recommendation. My sister had a section (planned/had to for medical reasons because of a medical condition) and she had a hard time getting nursing started. I was even there with her but I couldn't help 100%, though I did help her spoon-feed expressed milk...she got great advice from a LLL leader over the phone that really helped. They knew what to do, special things a post-C mom has to deal with that I didn't know. They will answer the phone any time and if you don't reach the first leader you call, just keep calling others until you hit gold because somebody WILL help you.

Hang in there...

durhamgrrl March 1 2010, 19:55:03 UTC

Please check out the Mother to Mother forums LLL runs too (www.llli.org and click on the forums tab) and try and find a IBLC certified lactation consultant (your local LLL leader should know someone). When you get breast feeding going you will be able to process the birth so much better.

rhetoricfem February 28 2010, 22:48:54 UTC

::hugs::

I don't know what to tell you to make you feel better other than you did amazing and you did absolutely everything you could. There is absolutely no failure here! I hope the feeding goes better, too. Just focus on one thing at a time and let Jeremy do everything else. :)

You're both beautiful!

You don't know me... poeticdream February 28 2010, 23:38:08 UTC

I saw your birth story link off of a community on my friend's page. My heart goes out to you. My son was 12 at birth. I know exactly how you feel about not getting the birth you wanted. But, when the baby is that big, they can't come out vaginally. My son did, but just barely. He got stuck inside of me and came out blue. It took a while to get him breathing. Scariest thing ever. What I'm getting at is that right now it's easy to feel overwhelmed and upset that your birth plan didn't go alright. And it's even easier to blame yourself for not growing them "right". I'm getting over that for myself right now, since I'm getting ready for #3's birth. I know I'm a stranger, but I've been there, and if you need to chat, feel free. Sometimes it's easier to open up to someone you don't know anyways.

Re: You don't know me... abinormal March 1 2010, 08:21:23 UTC

Was your second big too?

Re: You don't know me... durhamgrrl March 1 2010, 19:57:53 UTC

My first wasn't as big as yours (only 9lb 14) but we still had a very difficult birth (he had an imprint of my pelvis in his skull. My second was smaller (8lb 15oz) and the worlds easiest birth.

Re: You don't know me... poeticdream March 4 2010, 00:47:23 UTC

Well, my first born wasn't big. She was 9lbs 10oz. Ok, so I guess technically that's big. My son, born in '09, was 12. I'm due in a month or so, so I have lots to work through before the birth. Because I'm really frightened that I'm growing another insainely huge baby.

I hope you're healing well. If you need to talk, feel free.

grasshulaskirt March 1 2010, 00:26:05 UTC

You did a good job.

Prayer, smiling and whatever the other ladies here recommend!

Congratulations momma!!!