I haven't had one of these in a while...

[abluecanary]

On OKC, when you are listed as a tall female, you occasionally get perved on by dudes who are really, really into tall women. Which, I mean, it's fine and all, but it's not really what you should be leading with, if you want the person you're messaging to feel like you see them as a person and not a receptacle for your fantasy, y'know? Anyway, I

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[mofoburrell]

Haha youthey were probably looking more for sympathy, but I've been chuckling at my desk for like a minute. That is so awesomebizarre.

Maybe I'm naive, but I didn't know tall women were a big thing, either. I thought that was just a George Costanza thing :P

[abluecanary]

It's not super common, I don't think. It's something I get a couple of time a year, maybe. But the guys who are into tall, are *really* into tall.

Also, no, it's definitely funny, and not even remotely upsetting. I just can't wrap my head around what he could possibly have been thinking.

[cottonwool]

Everything is a thing. Tall women. Short women. Purple people. People wearing wolverine costumes. Remember Rule 34.

[abluecanary]

Being into tall women is also *really* highly correlated with being submissive. It's not always that way, but the two are definitely related, and it sometimes make for extra-interesting messages.

[freaky_eggplant]

Hahahahaha, oh god. I get a loooot of messages in the vein of, "Hey, I read your profile and you sound really awesome and I like xyz about the stuff you said but you probably won't be interested because I'm shorter than you." It's like some weird spin on negging where the way I get to prove I am a good human is by dating them.

[abluecanary]

Oh god, that's terrible! I actually *don't* get a lot of that, oddly.

It did happen more than once in, like, high school, that I caught guys who seemed kind of interested in me surreptitiously checking their height against mine... and then ceasing to be interested.

Short guys

[greatwhiterat]

Well. It could be learned/experience-based.
I'm short. When I've been rejected, it's almost always been with some line like "Sorry, I like tall guys." It may or may not be the real reason, but it's the one given.
Luckily, it's not a universal preference. They might just want to get that out of the way in the beginning.

(Sorry, originally replied to wrong post.)

Re: Short guys

[abluecanary]

Yeah, I get that a whole lot of women (like, a truly substantial percentage) do insist on never dating anyone shorter than them. I don't really get it, but I'm both queer and too tall for that to be a reasonable thing for me to factor in.

It's still weird to lead your opening message with "this is why you *don't* wan to date me". Because even though when people make that assumption about me, it is totally wrong (most of the people I've dated have been at least a bit shorter than me), it does come off as a weird mind-gamey challenge (at least in the specific example freaky_eggplant gave), which is a huge red flag. Like, the dude's height is in his profile, and if the people he's messaging care about that kind of thing so much, they can check it.

[quid_pro_crow]

He somehow managed to talk to himself in written form. Impressive!

"She's tall, nice. Hey, I wonder why my fingers are moving even though I intend to keep these thoughts to myself? Fuck, I'm still typing. THE TOURETTE'S IS STRONG TODAY ALL WORK AND NO PLAY MAKES JACK A DULL BOY ALL WORK AND NO PLAY MAKES JACK A DULL BOY ALL WORK AND NO" ... click.