regrets...

[eyelid]

What kind of woman is more likely to regret her abortion? What kind of circumstances lead to regret? What factors?

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[desperateopiate]

I went through a really bad phase over mine because I was suffering from a bad bout of anorexia and depression at the time (and the six months following) and was miserable over just about everything. I'm a perfectionist and am very prone to ripping myself to pieces (especially when I am in depression mode), and the abortion definitely gave me ample opportunity to do just that. I was raised by crazy fundamentalists and taught that women who have abortions are murderous whores, and while I knew better than that by the time I actually had one, I still couldn't help feeling like a failure. Especially since my mother had had me at a very young age herself and had she made the choice I did, I wouldn't exist

[determinedheart]

I have feelings of regret every now and then when I see babies on TV or at the store just because I wonder what my child would have looked like and how it would have changed my life. I have been with my boyfriend since I was in middle school dreaming about my wedding and family and writing his last name over and over. Six years later we are still together and never imagined this would happen to us. It's devistating...but, I can't fathom having to share something like this with my family and friends. I wouldn't have been able to provide the kind of home I wanted to give. I am a Christian and pro-choice which is not something they see as acceptable anyway, much less having an abortion myself.

[eyelid]

I'm sorry they've been so unsupportive to you :( It's hard when you feel you can't tell your family something so important.

So would you say that your family's unsupportiveness contributes to any bad feelings you have about your abortion?

I am a Christian and pro-choice which is not something they see as acceptable anyway,
You might like faith_feminists :) pro-choice and religious is welcome there.

[determinedheart]

It's not so much that anyone has been unsupportive. My boyfriend is really great about everything. I have chosen not to tell anyone, knowing that they would be unsupportive. My parents don't agree with the fact that I have always been pro-choice.

I don't think it has anything to do with my family that I have some regret. It's that I really could feel the life that was inside of me and the loss of that is painful. I don't know if that makes sense or if I can really even explain my feelings in words.

Thanks for the recommendation to that group. I am definitely joining. :)