That is so, so, so fucking wrong what he did to you. I wish I could go back in time and gouge his eyes out and slice open his nutsack and replace his balls with eyeballs.
Ok, I wouldn't really do that to him. But I respect you so, so much for getting through that :)
Hurrah for strong women who know what is best for ourselves :)
I'm really sorry to hear that you were in such a horrible relationship...I was tricked by someone and basically made to be pregnant as well, only it was to make him seem "less gay," because he was in the closet and didn't want to be outed. I was also in a really abusive relationship later in life, and it was during a time when I was diagnosed with severe manic/suicidal depression. So I really feel where you're coming from. I've just recently posted my story on this site, and it really feels good to talk about it. These girls are all very sweet, wonderful people, and will talk to anyone at any time. If you ever need someone to talk, I've been there, and I can always use a person to talk to as well. I hope your current relationship is wonderful, and I'm glad you both stand on the same ground. It's really a relief to have a partner who cares and shares the same values.
The first time I told my story on a website it nearly put me clean off doing it again, because the women there really didn't understand either mental illness (I've been a depressive all of my life) or why someone would feel so worthless that they think they deserve the abuse.
The fact they also told me what I did was wrong didn't help. I didn't speak about it again for 6 years.
It wasn't until my sister had an abortion a few years ago and confided in me that my story came out again. My story helped her realise that it's not a shameful experience and was the catalyst for me realising that maybe my sotry could help others - let them know that they are not alone.
My fiance helped me heal from years of abuse, trauma and self-loathing. It's safe to say I wouldn't be the person I am now without him.
holy fuck. if anyone EVER did that to me i would kick him in the balls so hard.. and slap him so hard across the face he'd lose his breath. he wouldn't know what hit him
im so sorry you had yo go through all of this. im real sorry. im here if you need anything :)
And I thank you all for the support. It's been years since that time and I have found that telling my story has helped others realise that there is no shame in either being abused or having an abortion - it can actually make you a stronger person.
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Ok, I wouldn't really do that to him. But I respect you so, so much for getting through that :)
Hurrah for strong women who know what is best for ourselves :)
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These days I help moderate an abortion support forum, I figure if my story can help even one person then I will keep telling it.
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Love and kisses
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The fact they also told me what I did was wrong didn't help. I didn't speak about it again for 6 years.
It wasn't until my sister had an abortion a few years ago and confided in me that my story came out again. My story helped her realise that it's not a shameful experience and was the catalyst for me realising that maybe my sotry could help others - let them know that they are not alone.
My fiance helped me heal from years of abuse, trauma and self-loathing. It's safe to say I wouldn't be the person I am now without him.
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im so sorry you had yo go through all of this. im real sorry. im here if you need anything :)
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And I thank you all for the support. It's been years since that time and I have found that telling my story has helped others realise that there is no shame in either being abused or having an abortion - it can actually make you a stronger person.
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