Advice

[gwyd]

How do I get an ISFP to finish a project? Or at least start working on it again? I've tried asking nicely, not so nicely, and insistantly. Logic and common sense are useless (Tried them anyway). I've tried putting all the materials next to the project and asking in various ways. I've tried asking him to teach me how to do the project myself.

Comments

[spirilis]

Perhaps there's a way you can shape the environment and situation in such a way that finishing the project becomes a mandatory course of action for them to get out of it?

(e.g. requiring they present or demonstrate it in a short period of time, etc...)

[saeble]

Putting a deadline on an SP ? suuuure... that'll work... not !

No diss spirillis, but this course of action is an absolute last ditch course of action for an SP.

[spirilis]

Hehe, good point.

[gwyd]

Sadly, we are talking about my livingroom and not a workspace. Pulling a Lysastrata is equivelent to prostetution and a housework strike would hurt only me.

[saeble]

easy

Method One

"I miss seeing you use those skills. This project would really show off how good you are. It's a shame, because I really wants to show our friends and family how shit hot you are."

Method Two, if One doesnt work

" Hah, I know why you wont finish 'X', because you cant, you're scared of it. You're just pretending that its 'boring' or 'beneath you' because you dont have the skill to finish it properly. "

If you want an SP to do anything, you either praise the shite out of them and give them a chance to show off, or you call them weak or feeble and unable to rise to a challenge.

:)

My ex girlfriend, whom I still burn a candle for would always respond to such an approach, but be careful, if they realise they are being baited/coaxed/manipulated they will tend to turn around and bite you.

[gwyd]

This sounds highly antagonistic; I'm not sure it would suit.

[saeble]

suit you ?

or suit the person in question ?

a little conflict is often good, without it life can get very boring... which is something an SP abhors.

[gwyd]

This does not seem a healthy way to deal with a partner in relationship.

[ramsey_sitc]

Hmm.. well personal experience says that you have to bribe them.

I bribe my darlin' ISFP with porn. I'd have to know more about the situation to give better advise. Like why isn't he doing it? What kind of project is it?

[gwyd]

He's supposed to fix/upgrade the computer. Parts and new software are in hand. I've been waiting since August and forced to use his computer for everything, which can be seriously inconvienient when we both need it. The computer is in pieces and I have no clue how to do that myself. He's always "too busy."

[ramsey_sitc]

Sweet talk?

Perhaps some kind of tone of voice?

[gwyd]

Oh, I tried that.