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insanechild in abstract_words

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Sep 06, 2004 16:35

Is it ok to go out with a Best friend's ex?

Comments 11

greatestregret September 6 2004, 13:47:11 UTC

If you really like the person and they are EX's.. I dont see why not it is free game.. but you don't want to fall into the "Rebound" Trap.. it's never a happy idea... You might want to talk it over with your bestfriend though you never know how they might feel about it... be honest things can never go wrong from there <3

xsamxsamx September 6 2004, 13:53:04 UTC

i think it is.
everyone should understand and be adult about it,
but they most likely wont..

tylerdurden029 September 6 2004, 14:12:09 UTC

it really depends on the time frame that you are talking about here... if they broke up earlier today - it is probably pretty bad timing...

serella September 6 2004, 14:25:51 UTC

If they don't mind, yes. But if they still have feelings for the person, it's best to back off.

engulfedbypain September 7 2004, 16:53:42 UTC

Ok, so your saying that if the person likes you, you like them, and the EX dislikes the thought, you should back down? My opinion (being in the situation as of now), I think it's bullshit. Why should you and the other person suffer because someone wants to hold on to something they lost, especially if they are at fault? If they are really your friend, they should want their EX to be happy, as well as their friend...

starsnhereyes October 8 2004, 14:24:37 UTC

Maybe it's less a point of "right" or "wrong" but rather what will it do to the relationship? Right or wrong it could result in the loss of a best friend. No person you like/crush on is worth the loss of a best friend.

My best friend and I have never managed to date anyone the other person approved of and it has been fine, but

Depending on why they broke up, it might be someone you wouldn't WANT to date. Afterall, you must think your best friend is pretty cool and probably have a lot in common with him/her. If it simply was they dated and weren't compatible I would assume the best friend would be like "Date him. He doesn't interest me". If there was hurt involved, it's worth taking into consideration.

Right or wrong, it may cost a friendship. I don't know anyone I would give Josh (my best friend) up for in order to see if it *might* work out!! There is always another cutie out there!

kitt3h September 6 2004, 16:27:09 UTC

you people and your relationships confuse my small mind @_# *crawls back into corner and falls asleep

insanechild September 6 2004, 17:29:57 UTC

*puts blanket over you*