Re: I'm trying to please him and not get him angry.ragecarnuuDecember 15 2003, 09:53:19 UTC
Does he sound receptive to hearing about your past? Eventually he will have to know to progress further.
is it supposed to be this difficult to have relationships with people after having had abusive people in your life?
Yes. Relationships are hard anyways without have bad experiences in past. It is hard to open up when you had two bad experiences and it will just take some time and trust.
love talking to him, he makes me laugh, Nothing better in a relationship than laugher ;)
He knows about my past because I write about everything very openly in my journal. He hasn't said anything about it. I recently bumped into my father and freaked out about it and wrote about it in my journal, but he never mentioned it. I don't know if it's because he's not sure what to say, or maybe he thinks it's none of his business...or what.
The trust part is difficult but I am trying :)
Yes, the laughter does make things great...can't remember a time when I laughed as much as I do now :)
It's actually wise to not open up too quickly with new people (at least, in most contexts), because if you're vulnerable, they can take advantage of you. Someone I met on the journal seems to have done that to me. If they're not responding to posts about traumatic stuff that happened to you, they might be a callous person. I can't say either way. You just seem so lonely and scared that I could see someone taking advantage of it. Of course, there are also plenty of people who could be very receptive and kind in such a case. You should ask him why he doesn't respond to those posts. Trust your instincts. I hope it turns out well.
Re: be carefultishaggisDecember 16 2003, 12:05:40 UTC
Hi, I talked to him last night and asked him what was going on with not discussing some of my posts. He told me that he didn't have personal experience of those kinds of events and that he didn't know what to say. Which is understandable, because whenever I make a post that is relevant to the abuse, none of my friends respond to it. I would probably do the same thing if I read something that I hadn't experienced in a friends journal. I am trusting my instincts though...just taking everything one step at a time :)
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is it supposed to be this difficult to have relationships with people after having had abusive people in your life?
Yes. Relationships are hard anyways without have bad experiences in past. It is hard to open up when you had two bad experiences and it will just take some time and trust.
love talking to him, he makes me laugh,
Nothing better in a relationship than laugher ;)
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The trust part is difficult but I am trying :)
Yes, the laughter does make things great...can't remember a time when I laughed as much as I do now :)
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I talked to him last night and asked him what was going on with not discussing some of my posts. He told me that he didn't have personal experience of those kinds of events and that he didn't know what to say. Which is understandable, because whenever I make a post that is relevant to the abuse, none of my friends respond to it. I would probably do the same thing if I read something that I hadn't experienced in a friends journal. I am trusting my instincts though...just taking everything one step at a time :)
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