Comments | academic_love: from mon amie <strong class="lj-user"><a href="/read/user/mollicento">mollicento</a></strong>, who has my best interests at ♥

anchovie in academic_love

from mon amie mollicento, who has my best interests at ♥

Jun 18, 2003 19:47

See, look:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/teens/girls/love/lovefiles/teacher.shtml
This is what gets me.
People are very kindly helping us realise that;
"Teacher crushes are harmless as long as you don’t take them too seriously. If he’s all you can think about and you’re obsessed with daydreaming about him, you need to keep your emotions in check. Make sure ( Read more... )

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38thparallel June 18 2003, 15:28:32 UTC

You know, I really hate sentiments like that. They make it sound as if a crush is seriously life damaging. For a crush to be destructive, the person crushing would have to be already inclined to self-destruction.

Academics are the most important thing to me right now and I think will remain so for quite some time, however, having a crush on a prof/teacher or anyone for that matter only helps me recognize certain things about myself and gives me an outlet for my creativity and amusement.

Much better to crush on a prof/teacher and study/go to class than to spend your days and nights out partying and feeling aimless.

anchovie June 19 2003, 01:35:12 UTC

I guess so. You're right, self-destruction's quite a big worry that people think they can fix by fussing. In reality, people should just be shown respectful compassion, whatever their character, and love; for the people who hurt themselves, however they do it, to be nutured into a position of self-esteem, and for us lot, to be allowed to finish our own business of love and admiration without trying to interfere, as if someone knows better.
*sigh*
It all sounds a lot easier than it is, though.

samuellsamson July 16 2003, 12:28:42 UTC

They don't write much advice about what to do when the teacher has a crush back... *writes a former teacher*

simplydivine July 17 2004, 14:41:24 UTC

the crush will fade ??

since when is that true? 5 years and counting.... dont even start telling me its gonna fade. i have a feeling its not ;)

anchovie February 27 2005, 22:04:42 UTC

I must confess, mine was 2 years but it's gone. Although I still feel fond, a boy kissed me. I got a sort of perspective - and esteem - I'm not saying that I have seen the light but a light has been shown to me and I'm finally free of the crush. Which was fun but painful and frankly a little monotonous.
Good luck with yours.