firsts & lasts

[acangie]

We're still at the age when we're experiencing more firsts than lasts: first fuck, first serious relationship, first apartment, first real job, first drink, first legal drink, first credit card, first marriage?, etc. And when you have a first, you're very aware that it's a first. It's exciting or nerve-wracking, maybe a little depressing, but

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[acangie]

It sound cliched, but I guess the lesson to be gleaned here is "live each day like it might be your last," or, I guess, more directly relevant to my post, "work every fuck like it might be your last."

[widdleafwee]

A good thing to keep in mind, especially at a time in our lives that is inescapably future-focused. Realistically, any event could be our last - probably not, but it's within the realm of possibility, more so than that one of us might win the lottery.

I guess there's a question we all have to answer at some point or bear the consequences: what is worse, to wake up and find that your life is running considerably "behind schedule", or to blink and realize that your twenties are gone, and you weren't in the present at all to enjoy them?

[acangie]

I think that might be another part of it too; a lot of my friends are a tad bit miserable their first year out, stuck in law school or high-stress and/or low-paying jobs, and they're starting to ask, "Is this it? Am I wasting the best years of my life?"

What I would like to do, I guess, is to work hard & play hard while I'm young, but that's not so easy, is it? It sounds great in theory, but when you've just worked a ten hour day and have barely enough money to cover utilities, let alone a barhopping extravaganza, ...

I tried hard last semester to work hard & play hard; the results were mixed.

[widdleafwee]

I have no idea how to do it either, and the people I know who are 1-2 years out scare me (no offense to those of you reading this.) I'm terrified of spending my 20s in a cubicle, but I am also terrified of being 30 and having no direction w/regard to my career. There's got to be a way to bridge the gap. Maybe that's where old people could help us out! Ooh - let's ask some random old people! Although maybe the schizophrenic guy who picks up litter wouldn't be the best one to ask (but then again, you never know...)

Yes, 8+-hour-days are draining. Most of the time I did jack shit after work when I was working 8-hour days. Work hard/party hard sounds good to me, too - so basically what I'm saying is I'm going to have to start a speed habit to achieve my goals.

[afrocurl]

Maybe I'm the odd one of your friends, but all my bitching about my dad aside, I'm having fun in my year out. Sure I'm not making any money, but I'm doing something for me, which is so nice and refreshing. I feel like so much of my life has been about pleasing other people, and for once, I'm not doing that.

I think this first is really a refreshing one: doing something for me that I can be truly happy with. Sure most of my friends are always busy with work, but it's nice to know that I'm doing something that doesn't make me question my current situation; I have a plan, but right now that includes making decisions that old people are going to hate (my dad just asked when I was going to take a test to be a substitute teacher...ugh.)

Regardless of what my family and friends think, taking the first amount of time to myself has been great.

I don't know if it's right for everyone, but it has to be better than suffering through life in a cubicle.

[dkun4eva]

this is another example of "it's never news to me and you don't post enough."

carpe diem...yes, even in bed, most definitely in bed.

[monkeyboy690]

if u dont live every moment in ur life like its ur last whats the point of living and in the case of fucking.....it needs to be emphasized.