Marriage Ideas!

Jul 13, 2004 20:27

I think about so many things all at once I never really know what is going on. I am trying to better myself not just mentally but to learn the skills that people succeed with. They are not skills that come to me natural and I wonder is it my gene's that make it that way or the chooses in life. I feel that I control my destiny but what is there ( Read more... )

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scriptgirl July 13 2004, 21:32:17 UTC
I know what you mean about wondering if it's choices you make in life or genetic. Sometimes I wonder if I'm just meant to be a loner and if somewhere deep down inside I like being alone, (or deep, deep down I'm either scared of people or comforted by being alone), or if I have no control over it, and it's just the way things are. Or the way things are supposed to be. I don't know. Sometimes it bothers me, like I'm not really a part of the human race somehow.

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scriptgirl July 14 2004, 19:11:02 UTC
That is exactly how I feel as well. Interesting...

K.

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anonymous July 14 2004, 19:16:21 UTC
I am very untraditional myself. I still don't understand why guys won't hyphenate their names to celebrate the union of two lives, two families, two sets of history. Why must the woman change her identity (in a sense)? I mean, I know the reasons men give (carrying on the family name blahdeeblah) but I still don't understand it. I would want a zen-like wedding or something completely off the charts. Of course, I spose I'd have to factor in my partner's ideas.

My Dad got married at the Viva Las Vegas wedding chapel. :o)

K.

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elizabee621 July 16 2004, 11:29:22 UTC
Oh my, where do I start? I can't speak for others, but for me I didn't go into my wedding thinking, "I'm going to be totally traditional." It just sort of happened. I also felt that it was really beautiful to incorporate certain traditions in a wedding that have been around a long time. I incorporated things into my ceremony that were in my parents' and grandparents' ceremonies. It was my small tribute to them I suppose. I did choose to ignore a lot of things that most people do, and I tried in my own way to make it personal. I also had absolutely no qualms about taking my husband's last name. I have absolutely no attachment to maiden name and he felt some to his, so there you go. I think the idea is that it should only be the couple's decisions. You shouldn't let anyone else affect your choices.

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