Comments | adayinmylife: Friday, April 25

speaksoftlylove in adayinmylife

Friday, April 25

Apr 27, 2014 11:24

A day in Daejeon and Ulsan, South Korea. In this day I go to work and then finally meet Dani/koyaaniisqatsi, a friend and also a longtime ADIMLer. We spend the night nursing our breakups.

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speaksoftlylove April 28 2014, 05:05:43 UTC

Thanks!

I've dressed more casually before, but many of my students are my age, so there needs to be some clear delineation.

0_0hamster April 27 2014, 14:32:51 UTC

Your cat looks pretty like your snack :D
But she is beautiful :))
PS: I dont think that someone who`s not ready to go through his depression with you is worth to be sad about! - I dont want do be mean, thats just what I think :P
Keep looking for someone special :)

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speaksoftlylove April 28 2014, 05:05:02 UTC

Yeah, I agree, that is how I have felt when I've been depressed. But people handle depression differently and I know that a huge deciding factor for him was that depression was making him short-tempered (which he had never, ever been before) and I was feeling like I was walking on egg shells. He didn't want to keep hurting me and felt pressure to be "normal" and it was making things worse. I figured, I waited 5 months for him when we were long-distance. I'm not going to sit here and refuse to move on, but I will hope for a reconciliation.

Thanks :)

speaksoftlylove April 28 2014, 05:02:35 UTC

Thanks. I understand his reasons for needing to be alone, which were mostly centered around feeling guilty for taking out his depression/anger on me (uncharacteristic of him) and feeling pressure to be nurturing and cheerful. I hope that he can get better and we can pick up where we left off, but I'm prepared that we won't.

sight April 27 2014, 14:57:44 UTC

I loved this! Also, I'm really sorry about your ex-boyfriend and I'm glad that koyaaniisqatsi has a friend over there to help her out, I was worried. Glad you guys are together!!

speaksoftlylove April 28 2014, 05:01:17 UTC

Thanks :)

manffa April 27 2014, 19:43:46 UTC

Distractions are good - keep on keeping on.

Also, I adore your nude heels!

speaksoftlylove April 28 2014, 05:01:04 UTC

Thanks!

The heels are from Next Direct :) I ordered them online.

mayabg April 28 2014, 04:42:04 UTC

Great to see a post from you! I'm friends with you on Facebook, and I enjoy your posts there - but it's good to see something here as well. :-)

mayabg April 28 2014, 04:52:13 UTC

I'm sorry to hear about the split - but I hope things work out for him and that either separately or together, you both find happiness in time. It's tough, though, it really is. It's so exciting meeting LJ friends. :-) You've built an interesting and great life for yourself in North Korea - it was great to read.

(Did the student come to sit the exam? How do you deal with cheating?)

I think we might've been friends on a previous journal of mine - can I add you again? I'm somewhat active. :-)

speaksoftlylove April 28 2014, 05:00:34 UTC

Thanks. I am glad that he and I are on great terms and I hope that we can reunite soon, but I definitely understand his need to do it alone (he was worried about lashing out at me and at neglecting me, and he was stressed from feeling pressure to be a boyfriend).

I'm actually in South Korea, though! and yes, of course, I will add you straight away :)

mayabg April 28 2014, 05:25:12 UTC

Sorry! I knew you were in South Korea obviously - it would've been a totally different post from North Korea. Just a bit distracted as I wrote you, hence the double posting.

Yes - I totally understand the situation you and your ex are in...it was a very responsible move from both of you, giving him some space (difficult in the present, but better in the long run), and I hope it works out. :-)

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