amy, you are an extremely beautiful person no matter if you wear deoderant or not. I think it is incredibly rude of people to tell you that you should change just so you look "nice" (or their idea of nice) in photos of your sisters wedding. The fact is, you are Extremely beautiful, one of the most beautiful people i know. Natural beauty. I wear makeup, because i do not feel beautiful without it, and i am trying to discover that more natural side of myself, and i wish i had the courage you do, do be who i want to be, like you are.
I would say, do what your heart tells you to do, and if your family cant understand that this is who you are, then that is their own problem.
honestly, amy, if i looked like you, i wouldn't bother shaving, plucking my eyebrows, whatever. you're one of the most beautiful people i've ever met. and you shouldn't have to give in to demands that emotionally affect you this negatively. if it were a case of just not feeling like it or something, that's different. but this is something that seems like it goes against your beliefs and what you stand for. and your nose ring and tattoos are a big part of who you are...hell, i know i'd be upset if my mom asked me to cover my tattoo. and your family should respect that and not force you to change yourself. in my opinion.
With regards to the hygiene, I'll bet it was almost as hard for them to say something to you about it, as it was hard for you to hear. Deodorant isn't for us, research shows that after the first 30 minutes, our noses assimilate smells, and we cease to be aware of the smell. It was created for everyone else, so that we all could live together in close places. So, using deodorant CAN not be about the individual, but about understanding about community. Meaning that the solution might be to try an all-natural deodorant (google it, there's tons of choices) when you will be part of a community...not unlike adopting appropriate language around grandparents, or quieting your voice when you're in the library
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yea. i guess they'll make me shave for my cousin's wedding too.... it's tempting to just shave and give myself really really bad razor burn. so at least i can make a statement.
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I would say, do what your heart tells you to do, and if your family cant understand that this is who you are, then that is their own problem.
i love you and miss you.
i wish i saw you more.
xo-hillary
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p.s. this is bronwyn. :)
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