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[admnaismith]

Thought for the day:

"It wouldn't be right to unload on people, because we all have all this crap to deal with, and I don't want to be the one who throws my burden on top of theirs by pissing and moaning."

vs.

"If you don't find an outlet of some kind, you won't be good for anyone."

Comments

[gwendally]

You have discovered the answer. Unload here, where we volunteer to hear it if we want.

Or pay someone to hear it - they're called therapists.

Both are viable and helpful, unlike dumping on people who don't want to hear it.

[admnaismith]

I've tried the therapist thing. Many times, during many crises at many ages. It's been as satisfying as, say, sex with a prostitute when one craves an intimate relationship.

Other people's mileage may vary.

What works much better, for me, has been a combination of workouts, Buproprion, indulgence in nature, releasing pent-up creativity in song, nurturing my son, and careful use of alcohol. And sometimes venting on line.

Though in this case, it happened to be someone else who said the first quote above, and mine was the second.

[gwendally]

I have rarely found therapy helpful, but I have a massage therapist who talks to me in helpful ways.

I hold out hope that therapists will give me the tools to fix my marriage. I have a new one lined up for May. I will get back to you on how well that goes.

[catsittingstill]

*hugs* Both are true; I think the solution is to find the right time and place and way to unload.

Half way there

[u_must_b_joking]

I find it's useful to ask people we trust if they are ready for a core-dump. Although, candidly, having that much self-control is not one of my strong points.

Re: Half way there

[birthingway]

Yes--I like this approach, too. But sometimes I just spew everywhere, and then have to sheepishly check in later.

[ellisbell]

This is actually why I rarely post on LJ.