i've been thinking a lot about talent lately. and how it relates to skills. and that book martin gave me, on being certain. or at least, that book i swiped from martin. on being certain
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My emotional intelligence was taught to me as a child, unintentionally. Getting it wrong had dire consequences.
Laypersons in our culture can't really teach you, and it's incredibly hard to learn all by yourself. Often, trying to wing it on your own with only societal feedback to guide you will fuck you right up - we're messed up peoples and would just love to teach you all the wrong things.
Therapists, though, they teach that stuff well. They teach you how to look for ways to learn and grow when it comes to this emotional intelligence thing. How to connect with people, to figure out where your responsibility to them begins and ends, how to recognize variables and how to respond to them. Mainly, the lessons are simply real world problems of your own that they help you solve, and along the way you learn what you need to know to apply it to more of your life and more people in your life.
I love therapy, man. To me, it's continued education in important subjects. And also it, you know, helps me cope. :)
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Laypersons in our culture can't really teach you, and it's incredibly hard to learn all by yourself. Often, trying to wing it on your own with only societal feedback to guide you will fuck you right up - we're messed up peoples and would just love to teach you all the wrong things.
Therapists, though, they teach that stuff well. They teach you how to look for ways to learn and grow when it comes to this emotional intelligence thing. How to connect with people, to figure out where your responsibility to them begins and ends, how to recognize variables and how to respond to them. Mainly, the lessons are simply real world problems of your own that they help you solve, and along the way you learn what you need to know to apply it to more of your life and more people in your life.
I love therapy, man. To me, it's continued education in important subjects. And also it, you know, helps me cope. :)
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