Out of the loop?
I'm doing research with a group of people and it seems like every week at our research meeting I'm out of the loop on something. Like, I got my samples in the mail and someone moved them to the lab and no one told me but then everyone was upset at me when I didn't know. I was supposed to go to another school equipped to do a particular analytical technique and I waited for the person I was supposed to go with and I missed an important opportunity for him and then I found out the plan had changed and no one had told me! I had been waiting two weeks for no reason! This happened to me somewhat regularly growing up but never as often as it does with this group of people. Every week there's something new I don't know about. I don't understand how they know the things they know! How did they find out? SOMEONE had to know first and that person had to tell someone else... didn't they? But my whole life it's always been a big surprise to everyone around me that I don't know something. Have any of you had this problem? Is it some kind of ADD thing? It happened infrequently enough growing up that I just thought it was a mistake, someone just forgot to say something.. it happens. I've done it, everyone does that once in a while.. But they've always acted like I should know and I never understood that. Now, all of a sudden, it's happening on this HUGE scale and I don't know why... so I was thinking it must be some kind of ADD thing.. I hope. Because at least then I'll understand it and maybe be able to mitigate it.
Sorry, about the ranty-ness of it. I'm just reaching the end of my rope and I'm afraid to confront anyone because what if it really is my fault? Not to mention retaliation.. if my advisor loses faith in me or starts thinking poorly of me, what kind of a letter of recommendation can I expect for graduate school?
So... any suggestions?