Comments | adults_add: 12-steppers? How was your 4th step?

reginaterrae in adults_add

12-steppers? How was your 4th step?

Aug 30, 2010 06:38

Is anyone here working a 12-step program? How was it for you doing the 4th-step inventory? I tried 25+- years ago, and am thinking about it again, and it just makes my ADD head swim. I could only ever do it piecemeal, a comprehensive inventory was just too much for me to wrap my brain around. Piecemeal's better than nothing, but I'd really like to ( Read more... )

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reginaterrae August 30 2010, 21:50:49 UTC

Thanks for replying and agreeing to unscreen your comment.

I found what seems like a good example of 4th step charts here. You're right, I do think it makes the exercise look more manageable! Google brought up other different ones as well.

How searching were you into that fogbank? And how old were you when you first did it? I mean, I have a very thin and foggy memory of most of my past ... do I dig and try to dredge up whatever I can find, or if it's not consciously on my conscience, does it really matter? I guess I need to go back and re-read the Big Book and the 12&12. I hope you will join the community if we get it started, even if you don't have time to be very active in it!

I'm Catholic and haven't been to confession since before I started looking my ADD and other psych disability issues in the face, which is a couple of years now. There is no Church "examination of conscience" guide I trust nearly as much as the 12-step way. It's proven. (Though I do also recommend Thoughts Matter by Mary Margaret Funk, OSB, whether for ( ... )

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reginaterrae August 31 2010, 12:05:17 UTC

I wish I had a sponsor, but I'm so choosy I never seem to find anyone whose guidance I can see myself following ... back when I was in Al-Anon, many years ago, I had a sponsor nominally but I didn't really use her that way. In the monastery where I work I had a spiritual director for a while (works very much like a sponsor), nominally, but even he said he wondered if I was getting anything out of it, and that he thought half the time the roles were reversed. I don't know if it's that "fatal exceptionalism" that makes me unwilling to look up to anyone? Or just a shortage of great role models? Anyway I am glad people like you are here. It's like letting the group be your sponsor, the library and the internet are my sponsor, for today. May not be ideal, but it's what I've got. And yeah, I'm not in a program now, so this is it ( ... )