I'm thinking it's hermit season

[adventdragon]

So in a nutshell guys and friends alike have been for the most part disappointing.  People I thought I established solid friendships with have all but kicked me to the curb.  Out of sight out of mind?  Am I just not that interesting to spend time with?  Am I exuding some anti-friend vibes?  I don't know.  In the dating scene, guys have all been

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[chorale]

Speaking as someone who lived for years in isolation, one of the difficulties with "going hermit" is that with other people, it really seems to be a case of "out of sight, out of mind." If they don't see you or hear from you regularly, they won't give you attention. Some of that is due to others thinking that if you're not out in public, you don't want to be bothered. In addition, for most of us, in our daily lives we don't have a lot of time to maintain a social circle so interacting with others often comes down to matters of who has contacted me regularly and how much time do I have available to spend with them. How to make a relationship grow and develop is something I am very far from being an expert at, but I m clear that it depends in part on how much I initiate contact. How to do this without crossing over into being a pest is the tricky part

[esprix]

I can relate lately. How did I go from thriving circles of friends in Philadelphia and San Diego to a much smaller circle in Maryland (granted in the middle of nowhere in Maryland) to virtually NO friends since the split? It has become amazingly difficult for me to be social, and you know darn well I'm not exactly shy. A good part of it is living in the stix, but I can't deny that I've also been finding myself lately slowing losing the urge to make the effort, and as I've been doing so I'm noticing that, like you, I'm beginning to question why it always has to be me to be the one to make the effort and why others aren't doing much to keep me in their plans. I've already told two guys to take a hike because they weren't making any efforts to reciprocate. Even my mother's going throufh it now that she's all by herself (and I make an extra effort with her because I know how she feels

[yajaec]

sounds like what I used to post about, I hear ya, it sucks at time, I think I'm already beyond jaded to care about that any more, I kind of just live in the now. Those that want to enjoy my company then good and those that are flaky, I've learn at the first sign to drop their dumb asses before it gets to the drama point.

I serious wish you have better luck in that area, as sucky as mine is.

Tomorrow I'm going to a Rabbit god temple to pray/ask for a love charm, I'll pray one on your behalf also. The Rabbit god might be real or fake but either way, I think we can get all the help, in any way possible.

Here's a little reading about the whole Rabbit god thing....

http://www.taipeitimes.com/News/feat/archives/2007/10/21/2003384192