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yayforadverbs in advice

Quitting a Job

Apr 07, 2011 09:39

I've been working at a job for five months and it's always been gloomy. I dread going in every morning. I am the assistant to one woman, the owner of the business. She is a total diva and is always getting onto me for something despite how hard I try to please her ( Read more... )

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expresso_moon April 7 2011, 14:18:07 UTC

"I'm sorry, but this isn't working out. It's not you, it's me."

yayforadverbs April 7 2011, 15:15:00 UTC

Ha, it seems so simple, right? I just get hung up on that first sentence. "Could I talk to you about something?....I'm leaving. Take care. kthxbye." Haha

leaf_kunoichi April 7 2011, 14:47:58 UTC

Please accept this letter as a formal notification that I am leaving my position at XXXXXXXX. My last day will be DATE.

Thank you for the opportunities that have been provided me during my time at XXXXXXXXX. If I can be of assistance during the transition, please let me know.

Sincerly,

Sign your name

Type your name

yayforadverbs April 7 2011, 15:16:06 UTC

Yes. The resignation letter I can do. As a passive-aggressive person I have letters down pat. :)
Thanks!

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leora April 8 2011, 08:28:27 UTC

I would respond to any attempts to do that with, "I'm sorry, but I need to have my last day be $date" (whatever the date is)

Do not give any explanations. Explanations invite arguments and attempts to convince you why ti should change. Just keep repeating the simple response. If asked why you can respond with, "I'm sorry, but it's a personal matter."

And if you always respond with the exact same response then usually people give up and stop asking.

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velum_cado April 7 2011, 14:51:20 UTC

I wouldn't make excuses, I'd just say the job isn't working out for you and give your two weeks notice.

yayforadverbs April 7 2011, 15:18:22 UTC

Thank you for your comment.
It's just tough because that is exactly what I said when I tried to quit two weeks ago.....and it turned out poorly. Haha But then again she was going through a lot of stuff at the time (work, website issues, moving offices, an up-coming TV show she'll be part of). Maybe it couldn't hurt to say the same thing.

nella580 April 7 2011, 16:24:46 UTC

I don't understand how you can quit and the boss says no. WTF?

You: Boss, I'm very sorry, but this job isn't working for me for several personal reasons. Here is a formal letter of resignation, my last day will be in two weeks.
Boss: What??? This is a terrible time for me and how can you even DO this to me because I'm so super awesome and fantabulous and don't you know all the pressure I'm under?
You: I'm very sorry *walks out*

Two weeks later
You: *Wakes up in the morning and doesn't go to work*
Boss: Where is my assistant. I TOLD her she cannot quit because it's not convenient for me.....
You *Doesn't care*

It would be great to have her be a reference, but she's obviously not in her right mind if she's so demanding and overbearing that she cannot take no for an answer. 5 months isn't super long and if a future employer asks about the lack of reference from this boss you can honestly say it was a short time together and didn't work out.

yayforadverbs April 7 2011, 19:10:41 UTC

Hilarious. Very appropriate profile pic too. :)

I agree, it was a weird attempt at quitting because I basically thought "Alright, this is it. I'm going to rip off this Band-aid" and she broke down saying "I can't trust you anymore. Just leave" in tears. It was so incredibly awkward. I should have just walked out. I was just so confused by her reaction that my mind didn't know how to react. haha To think a boss wouldn't respect a two-weeks notice and would just say "leave. now."

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windychan121 April 18 2011, 15:41:47 UTC

I've quit my first job I had for 3 years because of my job. When I was done school on my 3rd year working there, I asked for full time , she said there was a waiting list. I gave her an availability sheet because I was still volunteering for Girl Guides, and needed two days off. She refused to give it to me because I didn't have kids, and I wasn't in school. I have a family, my parents and brother, just kids? what so basically people with kids and school get more ya right that's fair eh? It took her 3 years to get a thank-you out of her for ''extra'' stuff I've done behind the deli counter, while serving customers. I just gave up in November 2008. I miss my customers, and two co-workers, one passed away last year due to heart attack, the other still works there. I still go in an visit, my old manager is now a manager for customer service and we have a new one there. would i go back ? No. I wasn't treated fairly ( ... )