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[red_qat]

Why the fuck is it that just about every person who I tell to that I was sexually abused needs to pry DETAILS about it out of me? I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one this has happened to. I refuse to to let the excuse that "it didn't happen to any of them" justify anything. Every person (which are few and far between I might add) that I told what

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[leora]

They may think you want to talk about it. Or they may mistakenly think it'd somehow be good for you to talk about it and that they should make you do so to try to help you. It may also be that the way in which you tell them or that they find out makes them unsure what else to say other than to ask for details. Regardless, telling them that you don't want to talk about it is good. And repeating that simple statement whenever it comes up will likely get them to stop bringing it up.

[nella580]

I agree with this very much. And OP, I'm very sorry for what happened to you.

[gindaisy]

I would guess that they don't actually want details but feel that they should say something and incorrectly think that is the right thing to say. They may think they are being supportive and think that you actually want to talk about it.

[seekingzen]

As a survivor myself, I've found that people who ask for such information without first establishing a DEEP relationship AND asking if you want to talk about it in the first place, are people I do not want to associate with. Those questions should be treated with the righteous indignation they deserve, as they are well over the line.