Severe anxiety and insecurity in relationships

[red_qat]

I'm dating a wonderful guy who I can honestly say is ten times better than anyone I've ever dated. He wants to spend time with me, talk to me, be around me, buy things for me (ha).....and I'm scared shitless of being cheated on. I'm insanely insecure to the point of hating myself: the way I look, the way I act, my intelligence, how my life has

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[cosmicwonder]

Have you considered therapy or counseling? It just sounds like there's a lot of issues going on here that a professional could proably help with.

[flyffe]

First off, you're not pathetic - you're just dealing with a LOT of issues, by the sounds of it. And overall you seem to be functioning pretty well, so you can give yourself a pat on the back. The fact you've been abused and you've had to deal with an unsupportive parent is more than enough reason for you to have doubts about people's intentions, and it is totally understandable and deserving of compassion and help and patience with the thoughts you're having.

Given the scope of your issues, if you do have access to any kind of supportive therapy, that would be a good way to start unravelling why you feel this way and how you can feel better. If you're like me and for some reason you don't, then do you have any good friends who might be willing to just have a listen to what you're going through in terms of fear and doubts and negative feelings, in a non-judgemental, not-forcing-advice on you way? The LJ community http://community.livejournal.com/_survivors_/ has been a great source of help and inspiration for me over the years as a