Comments | advice4teens: Where Do I Begin?

musiclover48 in advice4teens

Where Do I Begin?

Nov 16, 2010 18:48

Hm, maybe I should start out with the basics? Also, I put everything under a cut because I'm basically just ranting, sorry.

( the only thing that keeps me sane is Glee )

school issues, high school, family

Comments 7

mckee92 November 17 2010, 03:35:15 UTC

Honestly, if shes throwing things at you and swearing and 'etc' then she has serious issues. I'd talk to your dad, suggest either standing up to her together and saying enough is enough, or getting her to talk to someone else, a counselor or some such. Its not healthy to throw things at your spouse and child, let me put it that way.

In short, dont take any of her shit and find a way to make her stop.

tomleveen November 17 2010, 04:50:15 UTC

I'm so sorry ( ... )

ginamariewade November 17 2010, 05:10:29 UTC

Try this and see if it helps ( ... )

negativeneve November 17 2010, 06:51:28 UTC

*hugs*

My mom is similar in that I was verbally abused when living with her, and I found more comfort with my dad. I moved out when I was 16 because of it. When I was living with her, I mainly stuck to doing a lot of after school activities that kept me out of the house for a very long time. I learned not to listen to what she said because it was only hurtful. I also tried to surround myself with good people to kind of counter act all the negativity.

Honestly, the only way I found myself remotely at peace with her was by being far, far away from her. It allowed me to recognize the good things she did for me, and kind of forget all the bad.

marblespire November 17 2010, 08:33:15 UTC

Okay, first off: Child Support services, if necessary. I don't think it's quite going that far, but never forget that there are people who are charged with making sure you get the love and support every child deserves--including you.

Second: teachers and support structures at school. They're more likely to know the laws, customs and codes of your region--certainly more likely to know than I am--and they are yet another example of people whose job is to take responsibility for your proper upbringing and well-being. If you go to a temple (of whatever religion), the faculty there are another good resource.

Thirdly: counseling. Family counseling, not your mom going one-on-one; that won't fix anything because your mom doesn't even realize she's screwing you over, she's too embedded in her own fears to think about anything else right now. ...Okay, amendment: Yes your mom going one-on-one, because she clearly has issues that she needs to work out. But not instead of family counseling, in supplement to it. Your mom won't agree to it ( ... )