Thanks, that realllllyyy helps. IDK if we will move in together unless we get married though, because my family is *REALLLLYYY* vehemently opposed to, as my mom refers to it, "shacking up" and yeah...so we wouldn't get a chance to figure it out until it's "for real" if ykwim? Getting ahead of myself a bit yes, but it's a little nerve-wrecking to see a potential for problems in someone I do see as a potential mate. But since it's something a long ways off I'll just pretty much keep my mouth shut for now, haha.
Its funny how times have changed. So many people live together now before marriage. A lot of times people are against it because they think the couple will put off getting married. but I think the real story is that while marriage is a romantic idea, and it does change the relationship for some, for others it may not be all that different once they make things legal (and it will seem the same as living together before marrying). and that may be disappointing for some people.
Anyway, he's 24. You're young, im young too, 25..hehe. You are both still maturing. My mom was always tight with money and so I guess that's where I got my money-know-hows. How are his folks with money? That might say a lot.
I'm not sure how his dad is with money (he's a widower) but I know he does well for himself. I just don't know how he is about spending it.
It's sooo funny with my mom. Ever since I was a little tiny girl, able to understand the concept of living together, premarital sex, etc. it has been drilled into my head that couples do NOT move in together before they get married. However, my mom is 100% in the know; she knows that my BF and I frequently spend the night at each other's apartments and that he's at my place about half the time, and yet THAT is totally okay. o.0
I'm 35 and currently "shacking up" (I'm divorced and a bit gun shy for the second time 'round.) My boyfriend is very similar to yours in the shopping for himself category. (Boys and their toys.)
But back to the first point, I would hold off on saying anything; after all, he could be putting a very large chunk in savings to begin with in order to get the interest and then make regular transfers when shopping. People view savings accounts differently. I also agree with the earlier comments about talking about your own finances and see if he opens up about his. It could just be that he doesn't know jack about banking and interest rates, and the positives of saving for rainy days versus spending it all week by week.
The only time I would have a problem would be if he started "coming up short" when you guys go out and he starts looking to you to foot (more of) the bill. Then I might say something about his spending.
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Its funny how times have changed. So many people live together now before marriage. A lot of times people are against it because they think the couple will put off getting married. but I think the real story is that while marriage is a romantic idea, and it does change the relationship for some, for others it may not be all that different once they make things legal (and it will seem the same as living together before marrying). and that may be disappointing for some people.
Anyway, he's 24. You're young, im young too, 25..hehe. You are both still maturing. My mom was always tight with money and so I guess that's where I got my money-know-hows. How are his folks with money? That might say a lot.
Well good luck:)
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It's sooo funny with my mom. Ever since I was a little tiny girl, able to understand the concept of living together, premarital sex, etc. it has been drilled into my head that couples do NOT move in together before they get married. However, my mom is 100% in the know; she knows that my BF and I frequently spend the night at each other's apartments and that he's at my place about half the time, and yet THAT is totally okay. o.0
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I'm 35 and currently "shacking up" (I'm divorced and a bit gun shy for the second time 'round.) My boyfriend is very similar to yours in the shopping for himself category. (Boys and their toys.)
But back to the first point, I would hold off on saying anything; after all, he could be putting a very large chunk in savings to begin with in order to get the interest and then make regular transfers when shopping. People view savings accounts differently. I also agree with the earlier comments about talking about your own finances and see if he opens up about his. It could just be that he doesn't know jack about banking and interest rates, and the positives of saving for rainy days versus spending it all week by week.
The only time I would have a problem would be if he started "coming up short" when you guys go out and he starts looking to you to foot (more of) the bill. Then I might say something about his spending.
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