Thank you so much for your help. She does admit that she's insecure about our friendship and that she feels like she doesn't trust me enough and then talks as if she expects me to make up for her insecurities. Thank you for helping me through this, it really means a lot to me. I've been meaning to end our relationship for sometime, but because we were in the same school and because of our mutual friends, I couldn't do it. I guess now's the right time. Again, thank you for your advice!
You're welcome! Believe me, you're not alone in your situation and it can be very frustrating. but you can rise above this and be the mature one in the situation.
Sometimes those who are insecure are also jealous. I don't know why she is jealous but perhaps because you lead a busy and full life. She knows you don't really need her but she needs you.
You can do it. You're not trying to be a bitch, you're trying to find peace.
Girl, it is NOT your job to make her less insecure. That is HER issue. And she is making YOU miserable with it. That is not a friend.
Real friends don't judge others on how many text messages they send, or how available they make themselves.
You are NOT a bad friend... you just aren't the kind of friend that SHE needs, and that's okay. It really is! Not everyone is the right friend for everyone! You two are a bad match--that's all. It's not about you. It may not even be about her. It's about you AND her not being compatible enough to have a mutually satisfying friendship.
So, stop beating yourself up, first of all; second of all, stop beating your head against a wall trying to fit into HER ideal of what SHE wants you to be. Just end the friendship, and if others get mad at you, just tell them you did your best, but it wasn't meant to be, and leave it at that. If they want to get all judgmental on you, then are THEY really your friends? The whole group sounds very immature to me.
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She does admit that she's insecure about our friendship and that she feels like she doesn't trust me enough and then talks as if she expects me to make up for her insecurities.
Thank you for helping me through this, it really means a lot to me.
I've been meaning to end our relationship for sometime, but because we were in the same school and because of our mutual friends, I couldn't do it. I guess now's the right time.
Again, thank you for your advice!
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Sometimes those who are insecure are also jealous. I don't know why she is jealous but perhaps because you lead a busy and full life. She knows you don't really need her but she needs you.
You can do it. You're not trying to be a bitch, you're trying to find peace.
Good Luck!
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Real friends don't judge others on how many text messages they send, or how available they make themselves.
You are NOT a bad friend... you just aren't the kind of friend that SHE needs, and that's okay. It really is! Not everyone is the right friend for everyone! You two are a bad match--that's all. It's not about you. It may not even be about her. It's about you AND her not being compatible enough to have a mutually satisfying friendship.
So, stop beating yourself up, first of all; second of all, stop beating your head against a wall trying to fit into HER ideal of what SHE wants you to be. Just end the friendship, and if others get mad at you, just tell them you did your best, but it wasn't meant to be, and leave it at that. If they want to get all judgmental on you, then are THEY really your friends? The whole group sounds very immature to me.
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