This is meant in the most sincere and inoffensive way possible.

[desperateadvice]

24, female

I have this problem I want to get over because it’s really starting worry me that I’m going nuts and being totally OC. Please keep in mind that I can only give really my POV of events, even though I did go through many sessions of talking to all parties involved, so they will be biased.

About a year ago exactly my boyfriend cheated on

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[await_theophany]

First off, how old are you?

And do you talk to a professional about this? It seems like there is a lot more going on than just issues with this one girl. It might be beneficial to seek someone to talk to.

And it's understandable and perfectly reasonable to have such strong feelings against this woman. However, all these feelings of hatred are just hurting you most of all. Your ex-friend doesn't really seem to care much at all.

But, yes, I strongly suggest seeing a therapist.

[desperateadvice]

I'm 24, I've been in therapy for this. Frankly if my ex-friend didn't care, I wonder why she glares at my bf, and whispers behind my back. It bugs me, and yeah it's mostly just drama, but it'd be easier if I could just "delete" her from my existence, of course that would be immoral and illegal, so I haven't done that.

She seems like a very evil or sick person to me, but then again I don't send every one of the guys that shows an interest in me to campus court or the police station thinking their lives are over.

Nice IP address tracking by the way.

[desperateadvice]

By the way, what is the a lot more going on than just issues with this one girl? I like to hear what people have decided is my problem. I've been MORE than open, even including the synopsis of my broken childhood, unfortunately, that is one of the least problematic things in my life. For example, it ranks well below having a seizure that would kill me, or not having an apartment or place to live after college. Those seem more important than issues I've worked through with therapists for over 7 years.

So get back to me about my issues, I'd like to see what you've decided is my problem.

[await_theophany]

I am sorry. I didn't mean any offense whatsoever.
You didn't mention that you have gone to therapy for so long - otherwise I wouldn't have suggested it if I knew.

And when I said that she doesn't care - I mean she doesn't care about your feelings towards her - or at all really. She sounds very much trapped in her own world. So if you can, ignore her. Have has little contact as possible which I am sure you do. Having so much hatred toward a person really isn't benefiting you and it isn't affecting this other woman either.

I hope this clears this up a bit.

Sorry, if I didn't make myself clear before. And I really didn't mean to offend you. I am just a stranger trying to help you.

[hoodwink]

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