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[hideinthesky1]

This is my first post here, I hope someone could help me because i'm so lost. I'll try and keep this pathetic story brief so its not a tl;dr situation. I just really really need advice. I'm desperate here

You guys I'm a girl and i'm in love with my best friend....and he's gay. He is the best friend i've ever had, and the most amazing person that I

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[hoodwink]

Hey

[hideinthesky1]

Thank you so much for your advice, I really appreciate it.

I’ve already decided that I’m not going to be around him as much as I used to. We are constantly in contact, whether its on the phone or online or in person so I’ve decided that it needs to stop. Or at the very least it needs to die down a little. At least until I can figure out a better way to deal (if there is one).

As for telling him, I don’t think I’ll be able to do that. I’m too afraid of things getting weird afterwards. I told him that I had a small crush on him that lasted like 2 days once and he thought it was ~cute~. So imagine if I told him I’m completely in love with him? Awkward……………. :-\ lol

I just hope, i’m able to move on without changing things too much that’s all. But again thank you so much for your advice you’ve actually made me feel a little better.

[hoodwink]

Glad I could help:)

[bbmaniac]

I knew he was gay all along its one of the first things he told me about himself so I don't know what kind of person falls in love with a gay guy.

I did... my best friend came out of the closet just in time to be with him and they lived happily ever after. I had a MAYOR depression and had to take antidepressing but I learnt a lesson. It took me so so so long till I started trusting people again... and now, well, I can't tell you it's over, because I think it'll never will be but it's better...
There's nothing you can do about him being gay... It's not you whom he doesn't want, it's just us and it's not anybody's fault.
If he truely appreciates you, he will never hurt you and do what's best for you (not just for him) so, if any moment you feel like it's just too much, talk to him, I'm sure he could just tune the love thing off even a little for your own sake.

Be brave and remember, it's not the end of the world.

[hideinthesky1]

Man that’s rough. Its definitely not an easy thing to get over someone, especially in this case. Did your friend know you were in love with him? If so, what was your reaction? How did you deal with everything? Did you stop talking to him?

Thank you for your advice. At least I know I’m not alone. I’m trying to be brave but its hard.

[bbmaniac]

Yeah, he knew... of course, he knew (he was my best friend, after all) and I talked about him CONSTANTLY with him (he later confessed me that he wasn't sure if he did all the hearing intentionally just to use the information he could get...).
I never speak with either of them again. I don't know if it was a wise thing to do but I just couldn't. Too much hurt.

[drucillavinyl]

I have been around many many gay people and I can honestly say that they love honesty. I was with a man who was bisexual and when I broke up with him he turned gay. Its seems like many gay men have just had bad experiences with women or poured their heart into something that they couldn't hold onto. If this friend of yours is truly such a great friend I don't think there is any need to keep this from him. If you hold this in yes things will stay the way they are, for him. It sounds like this is deeply troubling you and I think maybe you should sit down with him and talk about it. Gay men are truly very sensitive and emotional. Talking about this issue with him will put your heart at ease and you won't feel like you are hiding it from him. Tell him you have tried to dissolve these issues yourself for the sake of your friendship but you cannot shake the feeling. Gay guys who also still have a slight interest in females still may not think females who know their orientation have interest in them. Above all I think talking to him about