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21 y.o female. So, this is the first time I've posted online for love advice. Anyway, my problem may sound kind of high school, but I haven't had much experience with love, so what can I say? Here is what its all about ; I have been with my current boyfriend for over a year now. Our relationship is good, we've had no major fights, or any silly drama like that. My friends love him, my family does too, everything seems great. He and I get along really well, we've become close friends. Despite all of this wonderful stuff, I am starting to think I don't have a future with him. I'm not attracted to him as a lover anymore...I want to be friends. I think he is a wonderful person, but I don't think I can take this any further. I don't think I could ever have sex with him, and I feel like we would be incompatible to marry (in the future of course). We have some strong differences, which have amazingly not gotten in the way of us getting along. One example would be the fact that he is Mexican Catholic, and I am a white agnostic girl with Pagan leanings. He has told me in the past (kind of when we first got together) though, that if I ever left him, he wouldn't speak to me anymore.This is a problem for me, because we are very close. When I break it off with him, I don't want him to think I am just saying that I want to stay friends, just to be nice, or to get him to keep doing things for me. I really want him to understand that I'm not just saying that cliche thing, to make it not so bad. I really do want to stay friends with him.
Another thing; Last time I tried to break up with him (meaning I never followed through or mentioned breaking up...) I ended up telling him that we just needed to wait on the sexual stuff, period.He accepted it, and acted like he was happy I told him that, that is what was bothering me. I've noticed that lately though, he seems distant, and bored of me. I can't help but wonder what he is thinking right now.
Most of my friends have given me very black or white answers on the breaking up portion. One person in particular thinks I should just break it off right now. Other people are saying, give it some time. I appreciate any advice though. I think the perspective might be different here because nobody here knows me, or my boyfriend :) Thanks very much.
Another thing; Last time I tried to break up with him (meaning I never followed through or mentioned breaking up...) I ended up telling him that we just needed to wait on the sexual stuff, period.He accepted it, and acted like he was happy I told him that, that is what was bothering me. I've noticed that lately though, he seems distant, and bored of me. I can't help but wonder what he is thinking right now.
Most of my friends have given me very black or white answers on the breaking up portion. One person in particular thinks I should just break it off right now. Other people are saying, give it some time. I appreciate any advice though. I think the perspective might be different here because nobody here knows me, or my boyfriend :) Thanks very much.